Would you sleep with the girl you like if you knew you'd never be with her?

Seems sort of like a waste of time. Plus if you don’t like the idea of “moving on” it seems like an investment with a diminishing return.

That’s how I see it.

But I am sure you will get all sorts of versions of wisdom on this site.

@josie So having sex always has to lead to something greater, aka relationship?

Do you really want a one night stand with someone you like?
If you already know it would painful to see the person move on, then I wouldn’t do it.

I’m female, but perhaps. As long as we were both aware that this was never going to become anything more than a sexual relationship. It depends what you mean by ‘like’. If you mean either I or she is emotional attached to me, then no. I would not get involved sexually with that person. If you mean both parties like each other but are fully aware of and in agreement with the boundaries of the relationship, there’s no harm. However, if one party wants more than a sexual relationship, it will lead to pain.

Are you asking this in relation to your own relationship with that same man? If you are, the answer is most definitely no. Don’t get sexually involved with him. You’ll be nothing more than a booty call.

How about if you loved someone more than anyone in the world and you know you can never be together?

@Earthbound_Misfit I don’t want to be in a relationship with him! I just want to have sex with him. He told me though that he can’t do it because he’d feel awful afterwards.

You’re previous questions have shown you can’t detach yourself from this person. His refusal to have sex with you because he recognizes that it wouldn’t be just sex for you is to his credit. You don’t just want to have sex with him. Your questions here demonstrate that very clearly.

My answer, knowing it is about you and this person, is a definite NO.

[Edit to previous post] YOUR previous…

You need to figure out how to get past this person and get on with your life. It can’t be doing you any good.

Are you talking friends with benefits?

Thinking with the head on my shoulders, no. The parting would be much more painful.

Yes. Actually I’d probably be more likely to have sex with them if I knew it would never lead to anything more than sex.

If it is a first date and we both realize that our personalities are too incompatibile for a relationship, but we feel a mutual sexual attraction, then why not?

If you are talking about friends with benefits, I think there is too great a chance that one of you is going to eventually feel an emotional attachment and end up getting hurt, ruining a perfectly good friendship.

@dopeguru

You’re the one that said it would be painful if you saw them later with somebody else. I don’t know if it would be painful, just sayin it seems like a waste of time at that point.

My impression from your comments here are that you are throwing yourself at this person. It seems you’ve asked similar questions about this person, and it seems to be somewhat of an unhealthy relationship, according to what others indicate above.

People sleep with people they like all the time, even though they know they’ll never end up with the person. However, in your case, I’d say if the guy is not interested and if you’re obsessed with him, try to walk away from the situation. Whatever reason he is not interested is not for you to figure out. Let it go.

^^ I agree completely with her.

Are you asking what we would do in your shoes, or his shoes?
Doesn’t matter really, my answer is still no. I wouldn’t.

Have some pride. Don’t throw yourself at someone or beg for their affection.

well he told me he would feel shitty afterwards because I’m pretty and he likes my personality. so how do y’all know for sure he doesn’t care ?

Because he has turned you down on more than one occasion.
How do you know he isn’t just trying to let you down easy?

Maybe he cares, maybe he doesn’t care. You’re putting too much thought into it, @dopeguru. Don’t you have any pride?

It seems to me that what you really want is to enter into a relationship, and what this guy has made abundantly clear is that he is not interested. How many times does he have to tell you? Maybe he thinks of you like a kid sister (actual ages are irrelevant), cute and fun to be around but not someone to be taken seriously.

Sounds to me like he does care (assuming he’s being honest), and he is telling someone he cares about (you) that he’s not interested in a long term relationship nor a casual sexual relationship, and you’re having a real hard time handling the rejection.

@dopeguru: If you are just looking for sex, there are probably 20 guys you can call and hook up with. I know this is probably the case for most women.