In your opinion who stays angry longer men, or women?

And in my opinion ,yes I think women stay angry longer, and you women that want to dispute that, just think for a second and remember the time you were angry, and how long it took you to cool off.

My paternal grandparents had twin boys who had a really stupid argument when they were seven. They never spoke to each other again…both lived to well into their eighties.

One twin took a piece of watermelon without permission and the other squealed to my grandmother (their mother).

They were each officers in my grandfather’s company and shared offices, board meetings and business decisions. Each used their other brother (my father, who was CEO), as the intermediary.

The wives were good friends.

Can I extrapolate from this to gender generalities?

WoW! So I guess men can hold a grudge as well as a woman.
Seems so petty, as was staying mad at a toddler well into adulthood.

It was, and always so awkward for everyone, since they worked together with the other three brothers, socialized together and lived around the corner from each other.

A family legend.

The end of the story:

Their respective daughters arranged for a reconciliation when they were well into their eighties. They were to meet for lunch. One brother lay down for a pre-luncheon nap, had a heart attack and died, then and there.

I believe women stay angry longer than men. Men tend to release all the anger in one sitting, while women tend to hold onto the anger instead of releasing it.

@Mimishu1995 Thank you I believe that as well, but as @gailcalled pointed some men can hold a grudge for a very long time as well.

Women: I know many women that have held a grudge against someone from there teens that can still recount the event in perfect clarity.

Women, hands down!

Hmmm. I think men do. Women are able to process their feelings more, they are in touch with their anger and get it past.

Men seem to nurse a resentment for years, never let it go, polish it so it always stays fresh.

Women remember, but they don’t hold it as a grudge, they just remember.

You know what I like the best about an opinion question?
No body is really right or wrong, it’s your opinion and that is what I asked for.

Women. They even admit it. They also admit women are more catty and prone to drama with other women.

Women, no doubt.
Just observe the ones who post on this thread, offended by “generalisation”
I can even predict who they are/will be, proves the point somewhat :)

Meh. I don’t think you can’t generalize. It depends on the individual what the matter is regarding what it might have triggered in the individual how it was resolved and so forth.

Also would like to point out that her mentioning a story about grandchild is not necessarily mean she was still angry or bothered about it. Just a memory.

I could point out that my father would hold and stew on things forever. He literally destroyed his twenty year marriage over an my mother leaving him briefly when things got bad at which point she stayed with a church family. She held on to that marriage through guilt and obligation and because the church didn’t believe in divorce and she thought it would be worse for the children but she was so happy when she finally gave up trying. Every argument went back to that first betrayal. She made a fool of him in front of the church and embarrassed him. Turns out what happened was he hit her on her stomach when she was prego. And that was why she left.

I don’t believe the incubation of anger is specifically related to one gender more than another. One or three examples from someone’s life is nowhere near enough to confirm the issue. :/

What @Symbeline said.