This has been very interesting to me. I’m really glad I asked this question.
I wasn’t at all aware that this had become such a hot-button topic, or even a topic at all. It wasn’t any form of media or commentary that first made me aware of this phenomenon. The Ira Glass segment @dappled_leaves linked says that this became an internet topic in 2011, but years before that I had noticed it just from hearing it around me; no one had brought it to my attention. In fact, here’s a 2009 Fluther thread in which I (as Harp) both talk about my having noticed it and discover that it was a labeled phenomenon. Several other users chime in on that thread to express their irritation with it.
I’m quite willing to accept that males are also speaking like this. I do hear that. My 20-something son does it, and my 20-something daughter does not. I find it just as irritating in my son’s voice as in any other instance. So I’m not selectively filtering it out from my perception of male speech. But the fact remains that I originally heard this as a thing young women were suddenly doing that they hadn’t been doing before, and that I still hear it far more in female speech. I expect that it will become more and more gender-neutral as time goes by.
I’m sympathetic to those who see this as “just the way I talk”. One’s voice is a very personal thing, very integral to the self-image, and like the other things that make up self-image we lose sight of the fact that they’re mostly absorbed from the cultural soup in which we’re raised. This is true of vocal styles. Styles come and go with eras and their cultures. I never heard anything like vocal fry in my many years among the French in the 80’s, male or female. I still don’t, from my more limited exposure now.
The 20-something Americans of today don’t find vocal fry noteworthy because it’s been a constant of their soundscape. It just seems like a natural feature of speech. Some of us are old enough to remember a time that was largely fry-free. It’s appearance on the scene strikes us as a curiosity, not an inevitability. Maybe you can see what I mean by imagining that young American males suddenly took to speaking nasally, so that that just became the way young in-group males sounded. Wouldn’t you think that odd? And irritating?
I do find vocal fry irritating. I find myself wishing that the speaker would just open up their throat and let the voice out, instead of putting the choke on it. It becomes an impediment to communication, a distraction to what’s being said. It isn’t a pleasant sound. “Smoker’s voice” irritates me in the same way. I don’t think any less of the person speaking this way, I just have a hard time listening to it.
Part of my fascination with this is in observing how such a vocal style propagates, which is the motivation behind this question.