Why do woman file for divorce about 70% of the time?

It’s certainly a mystery to me. I don’t understand that other 30%.

It’s not clear to me that the person who files is the person who initiated the split which would be of greater significance. I filed but he was the one who walked out and the filing for divorce was at the end of our lengthy divorce negotiations. Although our divorce process was not contentious, I wanted to be the plaintiff and not the defendant.

(It will be a year tomorrow that it was finalized.)

I remember that @janbb. ♥

Because the economics of women being disadvantaged to men makes it the only recourse to gain their property rights, especially to get child support.

Probably because men are more likely to cheat, more likely to be emotionally absent, more likely to lack communication skills, and I think couples who marry young, the women go through a larger growth curve and change. Plus, men are more likely to take their spouse for granted. That’s my guess anyway.

I also once heard that women are more likely to break engagements and/or leave a man at the alter. I don’t know if those are true.

No….no matter who files @zenvelo, the court splits the marital property up evenly. And if the woman has the children more than 50% the father will have to pay support. None of that hinges on who files first.

I agree with that @JLeslie.

Probably because 70% of woman get married imagining the man will change, but he never does.
On the other hand, about 100% of men get married imagining the woman will never change, but she always does.
So I suppose it could be worse.

@Dutchess_III How serious is your question? Not being frivolous, just trying to be fair.

Because men are too lazy to file.

@chyna Bite me~
I think there’s some rule about marriage licenses and oral skills canceling out.

It was curious to me when I read those statistics, @Adirondackwannabe. Wanted everyone’s take on it.

Maybe women are more emotionally independent than men?

In my personal experience, men tend to re-marry quite quickly, women don’t.

My dad was remarried within 4 years of his divorce from my mom. Plus he’d been briefly married, before he meet my Mom, at the age of 18, to some chick named Trixie.
My Mom never remarried.

My ex was remarried within 3 years of our divorce. I was single for 11 years.

My dad’s current wife has not remarried, although he’s been gone for 10 years. She’s about 8 years older than me.

What @chyna said.

I often wondered it that was the reason women had to change their name! Men would never get around to it! (I realize that’s not the real reason, but it sure is a hassle I don’t think most men would deal with. Why is that?)

The decision to end our marriage was sort of equal. Hard to really say who prompted that decision because it was a bit messy. However, I filed for divorce. I wanted things finished and resolved.

I think once the hurt is over, women are more likely to want to get the paperwork in order and have the divorce finalised. Unless a man has another relationship (and perhaps another woman pressuring him to get the paperwork done), I think many men are likely to let the paperwork ride.

How else are they supposed to get the hard earned man’s money. /s

I do think men just aren’t good at marriage and women give up on us.

^ I didn’t notice any of my exes’ hard earned money ending up in my account. He’d blown anything we had. I think once the pain has dissipated, women are just more likely to want to move on with their lives and that includes legally.

Because. most of the time a woman gives 200% and my old marriage therapist told me that 90% of divorces are filed by women because, as she said, ” men come, they go, they want you, they don’t want you, but they almost never leave, but… when a woman’s done she is REALLY DONE!”

Held true for me. My ex also remarried quickly, within a few years. A lot of men in my generation just don’t seem to do well alone. They are too used to having women that took care of them.

I have loved being single the last number of years now and have zero desire to remarry, ever. No thanks, it’s all good. haha

@Dutchess_III I know the court splits things up no matter who files. But if no one files, the court has no reason to split the property or determine child support. That’s why women file, to get the process moving.

@josie That made me LOL.

@zenvelo I don’t know any woman who did it for those reasons, but there is some truth in what your saying, and that probably is the case some of the time. My SIL was the one to leave and finally filed a few years later, because she wanted it done, and needed custody of the kids for legal matters. I think she liked the idea of court ordered child support, but he lived out of the country and nothing was enforceable.

One friend of mine left because she was miserable, a little afraid of her husband, and the guy never worked a full time job. She finally filed and asked for the divorce, in that order. She finally did it because I, and a few others, told her it will be better while her son is very young and if she waited longer he would be entitled to her social security. She pays him child support and wholly resents it.

Another friend of mine left when her husband was drugging and cheating and lying. She didn’t even realize the dire financial situation he had gotten them into. She finally filed. He was ordered to pay child support. I think he paid a few hundred for a few months. At one point she had him arrested, but in the end she couldn’t keep doing that. He barely paid a small fraction of child support over the years. If it added up to $3k I would be surprised. The kids were about 3 and 7 when she left him.

The only man I know who filed was when my girlfriend left her husband and finally after years he filed the papers. They were both good people, she still worked with him on and off. They just had really grown apart.

Another friend filed when her husband wouldn’t help her quit drinking. That wasn’t the only thing wrong though.

Pretty much in my circles about 80% of the time the women filed for divorce.

In the vast majority of domestic violence cases, the man is the aggressor.

I came out on the losing end of the stick in my divorce. I got the house, the kids and the van. That’s about it. Made $0 on the house when I sold it.

I still think the main question is who initiated the divorce. Saying that women filed the papers more of the time doesn’t necessarily tell me much although I do think @zenvelo has a point that usually they are the ones to gain financially by formalizing the split.

What @dappled_leaves said @chyna said.

In most states if the man files he gets rooked of his cash and possessions and corn-holed when iut comes to custody. In this ”gender enlightened” when it comes to divorce the scales have a cannon ball on the sode of the women and a hummingbird feather on the side of the men.

Didn’t work out that way for me.