Would a woman live under medieval conditions, work her fingers to the bone and suffer a life of hardship just for good sex?

Some women might, some women might not. It’s impossible to say “yes, all women would” or “no, no woman would.”

Some people will go to the ends of the earth to get laid, some will not get off the couch.

Are you speaking of anyone i n particular?

It’s hard to understand peoples’ motivations. But it’s surely possible.

But if this is a real person and a real situation, what business is it of yours?

Is anyone asking you to swap your warmth, own home where I don’t pay rent, closeness to town etc, just to have an awsome bed partner?

I’m not sure what age has to do with it, unless you are relating it to the health issues. The sex and affirming love drive can be fairly powerful at any age. Also, is this a hypothetical or a friend?

Reproduction is driven by an instinctive desire for sexual encounters. Often, as individuals age and the likeliness of producing offspring decreases the desire for sex diminishes especially for women. The value of “good sex” in later life is as important as one’s desire for the pleasure they derive from sexual activity. However, the importance of intimacy does not diminish. @ZEPHYRA you are not an “old hag” or a “dry witch” because your level of lust is lower than your satisfaction with the comforts of hearth and home.

@elbanditoroso and @gailcalled personally I do not give a flying shit what anyone does, it just makes me wonder what some will do for it! And as @ARE_you_kidding_me says, “some will not get off the couch”, I tend to agree with those!

@Bill1939 THAT is the kind of answer I was looking for, totally explains that mentality. Thanks!

Your question makes it sound like lots of women are jumping on the bandwagon to do this. I’ve never heard of such a case. So, like others in this thread, my immediate reaction is that you know (or know of) a specific person who did it.

If you don’t, this is a weird circumstance to dream up for someone. Or did you see this on TV or something? It’s very hard to figure out what you’re looking for here. This is not happening on any scale large enough to warrant the wording of your question.

Hell no! haha
Talk about being a masochist. Ugh!

I wouldn’t. Besides, it’s too iffy. With women, you might have an orgasm, you might not. If not, then it was a complete waste of time, time better spent at the mansion pool.

Men almost always have an orgasm, which I think is one of the driving forces between men wanting to have sex all the time.

@dappled_leaves there is no generalization in the question whatsover. Obviously I have someone in mind. @janbb , @Bill1939 , @Coloma @Dutchess_III @ and a few others hit the nail on the head, gave the answer I was looking for.

Definitely not something most people would put themselves through for physical pleasure.

@ZEPHYRA It’s not that obvious. Several of us asked the same or a similar question.

I wonder if some men would do that?

@ZEPHYRA; A, B, C, and a few others hit the nail on the head, gave the answer I was looking for.

You have to accept both the answer you are looking for and others’ different POVs if you post here.

I certainly wouldn’t, and I’m 25.

What’s wrong with living in the sticks and why do you think it’s equivalent to medieval living?

I don’t think women’s’ sexual urges are driven in the same way as men’s. I’m not saying women don’t or can’t have a high libido. I personally do have a high libido. And women can want to have sex with a man to satisfy their sexual needs without wanting more than that. However, I think if they chose to give up existing home comforts to live with a man, it would entail more than his sexual prowess. She’s more likely to have fallen in love with him. Plus, why does she have to move there? Why can’t just just enjoy having sex with him and continue to live in her comfy home with all that entails?

The only way I can see this working is if the woman is emotionally attached to the man and for some reason, he can’t live in her home with her. An example might be the educated Swiss woman who fell in love with a Masai man and went to live in his village.

@Earthbound_Misfit Would you see that educated Swiss woman as normal or complex-ridden for some reason? I am not being nasty or implying anything about anyone before they all go jumping down my throat! Just wondering how logical that is. Then again different people see logic from a different perspective.

She probably had reasons other than great sex to give that up . Is this someone you know? I can tell with almost certainty she thought it would be better than that when she made the decision , and I don’t mean just sex.

@ZEPHYRA, I think her actions were unusual. So unusual it ended up being made into a film. There are less extreme examples across history. Wealthy women who fall in love with men from poor families and give up their position to be with them. Women who fall for a man from a different religious background and marry them. My grandmother was a protestant and my grandfather was a catholic and from a wealthier family. At the time such a mixed marriage was very frowned upon. He was disowned because he chose to marry her. I doubt in any of these cases the driving force was simply sex.

^^ How did your grandparents’ marriage work out in the long run?

As far as I’m aware, it was fine. They had six children so something worked! However, according to my grandmother, he died young. My father was only two and my uncle was a baby. It’s a bit of a mystery to me though. I’ve looked for his death certificate but I can’t find it. So I’m not sure where he died. I think compromise was a big part of their success. Half the children were christened in the Catholic church and the rest were Church of England.

I remember her telling me she was disgusted with the catholic church. My older aunts and uncles must have contributed to the household income I’m sure, but my grandmother still had to take in washing to feed, clothe and house her children. Yet the nuns continued to knock on the door and ask her for donations. In contrast, she said the local rabbi would come around and sit and have a cup of tea with her and just talk to her about life and how things were going.

From your title, I thought you were asking about one of those stupid time travel romance novels where the heroine opts to stay in the past to be with the man she loves. I always thought that the lack of medical care (especially considering potential childbirth) was a total no-go.

But it sounds as if you’re talking about some sort or rural living, which many people enjoy. You sound rather bitter/judgmental, and I’m having trouble understanding why.

@syz Hey – I’m about to teach a course on time travle novels. If I’m not back here in a month, you know where to look for me…..

In the library?

I think a woman with a budding career and such will only do such a thing if she has the Folie à Deux that the phenomenal sex equal love, other than that she can chase it at the bars or rent it off Craigslist hand have it pretty much both ways.