My relative texted me, but now won't respond? ( details inside)

She can’t be angry with you for pointing out the law, it’s not like you are saying that you are only willing to help her out for three months. Are you worried about her safety (is she so down in the dumps that she is a threat to herself for example)? If so, is there another relative you can contact that is closer to this person? If you don’t feel like she is in any danger then I would just wait for her to get back in touch. By offering to pay for her ticket you have gone above and beyond to help her and I feel she was rude to hang up on you after such a kind gesture. Is it possible that she is a bit of an attention seeker?

@OpryLeigh she’s always been kind of like that, I worry all the time that she’ll do something harmful but I’m too far away to really help.

I would leave it alone. You made the offer. It sounds like she is trying to be manipulative with her attitude.

It sounds to me like she may not realize, even if you already explained it to her, that she can only stay there for three months with a visa. A lot of people don’t know the laws when it comes to international travel.

If you want to, you can attempt, one more time, to explain that you only said it because of how the laws are, and you can include a helpful link so she can see it for herself. But honestly? She doesn’t seem like the most reasonable person in the world. If that’s how she acted after you offered to fly her there, do you think it’s worth the effort?

Is it possible she thought all she had to do was arrive at your place and she could stay forever? If she packs $500,000 in her suitcase I think there is a visa that actually permits it.

I think what I would do is wait a few days or a week and text that you are looking forward to seeing her and ask her if there are any tourist attractions she’d especially like to see. Or, ask her the dates she wants to fly so you can book it (if you were going to do the booking).

I get the feeling possibly she reads into things too much and felt your comment was trying to tell her you don’t want her around too long. I don’t think you said any such thing, just the opposite, but some people are weird and insecure and easily discouraged. Or, she just is a little inconsiderate and hasn’t responded to your texts.

I’m just guessing, I could be totally wrong with all those guesses.

I suspect your relative was feeling desperate and looking for a way out of her life. Three months didn’t cut it for her as a solution and now she is flailing around some more. I would leave it be for a while and then contact her casually.

I agree with those who say that your relative probably doesn’t realize that you could not reasonably offer more to her. It sounds like she is frustrated with her situation and lashing out at you because you are reaching out a hand to help. It’s not reasonable behaviour, but it’s predictable. I think that you were generous to offer what you did, and that her reaction is an ungrateful one, even if understandable.

If she has any character, she will eventually regret responding to you in that way. But I also don’t think you can gain anything by pushing for more contact. I would give her some time to sort things out. Perhaps she will never forgive you for not doing more to fix her life (some people like to be able to blame someone for their troubles), but there’s nothing you can do to change that.

She sounds like a troubled person. I would let it go.