How many sexual partners have you had and how much is too many? Nsfw?

This is a question where people want to inflate their number so take it all with a grain of salt. Unless you have a vagina since that makes you a whore according to congress and Rush. A dude saying 20 is hero and a woman with 20 is slut.

This nerdy dude has only penetrated three vagina’s in 38 years. I demand STD tests first so that knocks out the one night stand thing.

I’ve been with 6. I got married at age 25, so for purposes of this Q at 25 it had been 6. More than one of them I wish I hadn’t, not that it’s traumatic for me, just shouldn’t have bothered.

I am curious because I only had 2 and I’m wondering if I had been single how many more would I have. I’m not the type to hook up but only if I felt there was a real connection. So really ok just trying to understand the number associated with it. Like was it due to one night stands, was it with people you were “talking” to, etc.

I don’t understand how my question to strangers online could offend so many? They said I shouldn’t know because it’s none of my business. This was like 20 people saying this…I’m never going to weddingbee no more. Too many sensitive women haha

I don’t think you will get backlash here.
I honestly don’t know the number.
I went through a phase (maybe 2 years) in my early teens where I slept around A LOT I treated it like a game but I realized later that I was really just a victim of much older men manipulating a little girl.
The whole thing left me confused and my self esteem suffered miserably.
I was seeking validation and all I really got was used.
When I look back as an adult, I realize that there is no reason a 24 year old man should sleep with a 14 year old girl no matter how willing she was.

Please don’t worry about asking that question. You are not forcing people to answer. The “offense” anyone perceives is in their own minds. Relax.

Like I tell my 2 kids, (in their 30’s), I’ve had sex at least twice – and enjoyed it both times. I might even do it again some time.

I’m a serial monogamist, 8. I’ve also received 7 marriage proposals, although I only made the mistake of accepting once.

I don’t think it matters how many you have. We all work the same way. What matters is what’s on the inside.

My “regret” number is only 3 or 4.

Here’s a question I feel is relevant: How do you count those you’ve fooled around with but not had sexual intercourse with?

I just found a box of letters and journals from my teenage years. There were boys I was in deep distress over who I have zero recollection of now! (I’m 54 now.)

I had 20+ notches on my bra strap way back when in the 70’s. The era of sex, drugs and rock-n-roll you know. haha
I was then married for 22 years and 100& faithful during the marriage.
I was always the initiator, I choose and I was in control. No regrets and nobodys biz.
Women can take charge of their own sexuality.

Now I am 55 and have been celibate for the last 6 years so I figure it has all balanced out in the long run. lol

Emotional immaturity is often the reason that some have many sexual liaisons. They flee when their partners become emotionally attached to them. Some people have overactive libidos and others are addicted to the pleasure derived from orgasms. I doubt that average for mature psychologically healthy women is in the dozens. It likely is more frequent for men who seem to remain adolescent well into their thirties. It is not the number of times one has intercourse, but the depth of their relationships that is important.

Two, one I married and the other was also a L.T.R.

One. My wife. We’ve been together since I was sixteen.

Luckily, she has a very nice vagina.

I’m 68 and I’ve had about 7— so I fall far short of being Sir Slut!

Props to @Coloma, the hero of this thread!

I’ve been with two men. Both long term relationships. I regret the first. The second is my current boyfriend. I’m 22 but I was a bit of a late bloomer and only lost my virginity at age 20.

I don’t think there really is a “too much” number since there is nothing morally wrong with having sex. Though I would request an STD test before I would have sex with someone who had had many partners, but that’s just a health and safety thing.

20 is probably earlier than average.

About ten. I don’t think there is a particular number that is “too many”. Although i’d say when you are getting up in the hundreds or something, it might just be. BTW, I’m in my 40s and have been married once before. If that helps any.

@Brian1946 Haha…no bragging rights, just was what it was. The era of experimentation and few concerns about STDS.
That all changed when HIV came down the pike in the early 80’s. By then, my game was over and I was married.

It’s a reasonable question. But it is an impossible question from which you can draw reasonable conclusions based on the answers given. In my case, I’ve taken the prudent path of not attempting to calculate totals. I will say that (as a young man), it boiled down to a matter of “opportunities”. And here I would like to state that my “opportunities” were more the result of a confluence of social realities than any prowess at pursuing women. Those realities involved, the arrival and widespread availability of the pill and other female contraceptives, the explosion of the women’s liberation movement, and the extraordinary concentration of those liberated women in this city when I arrived. No description of those days will surpass the simple fact that within a week of my arrival, I read the interesting statistic that single women between the ages of 20 and 50 outnumbered the single men here to the tune of 7 to 1. There will never be a time to compare with those days. And I can only smile at my good fortune in my random luck in showing up at the right place at EXACTLY the right time.

One and I am married to him having sex with the person your marrying just makes it more fun and loving

How would you know?

I have had three only. The last one was my husband. Now when I look back I think one is enough. Having too many gives you alot of emotional baggage and worries. There are just so many types of STDs going around that it is just not a good idea to have too many. If you can get pregnant by accicent by using condoms, what is to stop you from getting an std too.

I think not having to worry about STDs or pregnancy makes life alot easier. And no I am not a religious freak. I just think from a practical point of view it makes life easier.

I’m 23, very single and I’ve been with 6. I feel that is too many as the majority of the cases were meaningless and casual. And I didn’t use protection the majority of times.

Way too many; most were just skizzers or bag ‘hos. I can’t remember any I boinked more than twice less the fiancé I almost married; if he/she is not a keeper, than any is too many.

25 women and 3 men….. Not all were penetrative. But it was fun.

I’m 30 and I only have one bf by choice. Of course he is also my one and only sexual partner.

Off hand I’m not sure on the number of partners , I think we have to decide what “sex” is? Do you count oral or only penetrative sex? And as long as it was all consensual who cares what the number is. I think mine is around the 20 mark and I’m 45 and married (again).