Why can't I find love?

Don’t look for it and it will find you.

You are either looking in the wrong places or have focused all your attention on this so much so that it has made you inconfident and scared. Lighten up, move on and it will fall out of the sky when you don’t expect it. Timing is the key.

No, look for it. Whatever it is you are doing isn’t working and I’m guessing that it’s nothing. Depending on your age and location your options will change. Honestly it’s usually best do something you enjoy that involves meeting new people like taking a crafting class or joining some sort of club. These days online dating isn’t so bad either.

Follow the words of Sir Phil of Collins…“you can’t hurry love, no, you’ll just have to wait…”

Lol I love all the responses they alone are an experience of love…..

~Standards are too high. Just ask an ugly chick out.~

Lol I’m a girl well woman…looking for a man

@RobinRedbird ask a younger inexperienced man out and practice dating with him. Just don’t break either of your hearts.

People may hate this answer, but I’m going to give it anyway. If you want to be in a relationship, you have to look for it. I admit, I haven’t had to look in a while (married 25 years in August) but I was what a lot of people looked down on, one of those girls who got into serious relationships quickly, and didn’t have a lot of time between relationships. (I guess some people just aren’t designed to be alone and I’m one of them.)
Here are things to think about when you are tired of being alone.
When you meet people, try to look beyond the outward appearance-Try and see if there is a diamond in there. Ask questions, get to know people, be truly interested in who they are as a person and see if you find the value that is not obvious.
Give clues of your interest.- Smile! lean in when they speak, walk beside them, get just barely inside their comfort zone. If they are also interested they will let you stay. If it’s to much they will increase the space and you will know to back off.
Be available- Don’t play coy hard to get games. That doesn’t mean you sit by the phone waiting for it to ring, but there is nothing wrong with letting someone know that you’re happy they called or are happy to see them.
Use their name- When my husband and I first started dating he used my name all the time. He didn’t call me his girlfriend or his date, he just said, “Judi.” I’m not sure why, but it was intoxicating. People love to hear their name more than they admit.
Really, the most important thing is where I started. Be genuinely interested in the person more than pursuing the relationship. Treating people with respect is the most attractive trait a person can have along with kindness and humility.

Stop looking. Be busy living the life you want, and love will come into it.

Like @Judi I too have not had to look for a while but what I remember with my wife is that we had a common interest that brought us together. I was not looking for a relationship and she was already in one (two if you include the long distance one that started in high school and was slowly fading). We were a part of a group at first and learned to like each other as friends before we became “a couple”. Of course, this was in college and so there were almost always other people around and numerous opportunities and occasions tugging at us. But we enjoyed our time together, wanted to be together when we were apart yet were able to give each other the space to do what we wanted to do on our own or with others and always seemed to come back together.
So I guess that is my advice, get involved with something you enjoy that involves you with others of a like mind, don’t obsess about “finding someone” focus on what you are involved with, find and make friends and just see what happens.

You can try a hobby like swimming. The swimming pool needs more single people to balance out the parents with children.

I agree with @Judi. I mean I’m not in love or anything, it’s super early days, but I waited around for years trying not to be too eager or too keen because I didn’t want to force something and then be disappointed or I was always told it would find me when I wasn’t looking. Then I decided I was “on the prowl” because I was sick of being alone and I just had a cute date. I listened to the guy, asked him about his interests, called him by his name, got drunk and asked him out. Perfect recipe ;)

I beg of you to ignore the comments of others (not those on this thread). True love will happen when you meet the right person. Young people often look upon a budding relationship through rose-colored glasses and rarely do they work out.

Not to freak you out, but it took me ~40 years to find the love of my life, and every minute has been worth it.

Being single is so much better than being in a bad relationship, or even that being in a mediocre relationship and missing the opportunities for a great one. The “pretty means you should be in a relationship” formula is broken thinking.

As a pretty girl, it would be ridiculously easy for you to get “just any” boyfriend. I suggest you figure out what you really want in a relationship, set the bar high for quality healthy good human being, and when you see someone who seems really worth a chance, find out if he’s available…

What’s your definition of “Soooo long”?