If you hosted a lurve threshold party, what would your reaction be if the honoree didn't bother to show up?

Maybe the honoree just isn’t into the parties? I’m not sure we can really impose this sort of responsibility onto other jellies, especially if they were never interested in lurve or lurve parties to begin with.

They are not very active on the site?

It’s their pre-rogative!

@SavoirFaire

I agree.

On that note and as a one-time honoree, replying to each poster would have been a tad bit on the labor-intensive side for me.

People always have such nice things to say. It’s a shame when they don’t show up to see them, but oh well—it’s fun anyway.

By “not bothering to show up”, I don’t mean they have any obligation to acknowledge the thread.

Perhaps I should have asked, ”...if the honoree didn’t show up”.

Actually if the honoree didn’t show up, I’d probably laugh and it could give the thread an entertaining direction.

Just means more cookies for me.

Honestly, it’s often days before I notice a lurve party. I don’t know why I’m not alerted, as I have liked every topic that seems to pertain.

If I was aware of a member not responding to their own party, I would likely PM them, knowing that if they are active at all, they will know. You can go to the member’s page and see their last log-in, so that might be a clue, too.

This question came up on my “Questions for you.” but never the lurve parties.

I wouldn’t worry about them not showing up. They may not have had time to visit Fluther or perhaps they feel uncomfortable with the whole notion of parties. I can get that. It doesn’t stop other people celebrating their participation on Fluther.

I don’t sweat it too much. We’re all busy. But my personal preference is to try and thank all the people that post on my party questions. If you take the time to acknowledge my existence the least I can do is thank you.

For me I was exhausted from constantly Fluthering. Also I can’t remember everyone. So I go @all.

I figure they got busy or tired or distracted by life and could not respond. They still read the comments and know people cared. That is enough.

I liken it a bit to birthday wishes that people send on FB. I am always conflicted when that happens to me. It seems rude to not say anything, or give a pat reply. But it takes too long and is too stressful to come up with a personalized reply for each well-wisher.

What @SavoirFaire says. I don’t even look at the party threads, let alone participate. If I ever make it to party status, I may very well miss it, and I hope it won’t be held against me that I don’t respond.

I would never host one & think those who insist on posting multiple parties are arse lickers of the highest order.
In saying that, I think as long as the “honoree” acknowledged through PM to any host, then it’s all good.

I once hosted a party in honour of Arnold Schwarzenegger.
Fucker did not even show up.

If the honoree were sick and vomiting up his soup, I would forgive him.

I think I’d be more likely to forgive vomiting something with chunky bits, @janbb.

Now that’s just gross. :-)

Even though we’re all friends, it’s still online. The person was probably busy with something. I disappeared on and off, even though I wanted to be online but I was dealing with other stuff.

I’d feel the same way I do when I send someone a gift or an email and never receive any kind of acknowledgement: disappointed but not devastated.

I would show up to any party I’m invited to.

I once hosted a party in honour of @ragingloli.
Fucker did not even show up.