Will I ever be able to find someone to love me?
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May 1st, 2015
I have bad anxiety. It tends to get worse with dating when I like the person and has a tendency to ruin any chances of love for me. Often, I am reacting to a very real concern, but often times my emotions ruin any chances of love. When I was younger, it did not affect my relationships as much as it does now. I find there is less men to choose from . When I find someone I like, its very difficult for me, especially with the lack of real communication these days ( aka texting). I am decent looking woman in my 30s and highly educated. I have tried hobbies such as yoga and exercise to help ease my tensions. I am on medication. However, nothing seems to work. My efforts only put a band aid on my feelings, The only action that releases my anxiety is to react to it by doing something irrationall. I usually can’t get past a couple dates. Am I doomed to be single forever?
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Stop looking for a relationship, and start with just a friendship a lot less stress then proceed from there if the friendship works out.
No, you will not be single for life. Just let go and move on with your life, enrich yourself even more. It is all a matter of timing and confidence on your part. Just enjoy life without restrictions.
You need therapy to see your patterns and get past them. Try focusing on your self and liking yourself and enjoying your life and love will find you.
Don’t lose sleep over it, it may never happen. Just get used to the idea like I did. You’ll sleep better at night and be happier in the long run. And if it’s gonna happen, it’ll happen.
I wondered the same thing for a couple years when I was in my 30’s. I joined 2 singles dating clubs, computer dating and put adds in the paper. I dated many women before I finally found a women who was the perfect match.
Keep looking and leave no stone un turned.
“The only action that releases my anxiety is to react to it by doing something irrationall.”
Sounds like this reaction ultimately causes anxiety for you. I would like to put you on a prescription for straight rationality for a full month or two. No exceptions. See how you feel after.
Relationships are dream killers, you are better off single.
Not a week goes by where I don’t think to myself “Jesus Christ, I wish I were a lesbian”, at least once.
@cheebdragon Well good news according to right wing religious people being gay is a choice so now you can be a lesbian, in just a wink of an eye.
Love must come from within before it can be reflected out.
Get to know yourself first. If you don’t enjoy your own company (alone time) it’s harder to accept or be accepted by someone else.
Being single is not a curse. Society should never judge a harmless personal proclivity.
You said you wished you were a Lesbian at least once, and now you can be isn’t that lucky?
@SQUEEKY2 I wasn’t aware I needed right wing approval for anything.
Be yourself and love your life, then you might meet the right person.
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