Social Question

cazzie's avatar

Have you ever really considered that you've had enough of life and living and are just sick and tired enough? People suck so much that being among them is too hard to deal with every day.

Asked by cazzie (24516points) May 8th, 2015

Long term there is going to be nothing for you, so planning a quiet exit strategy seems the best course of action.

Observing members: 0 Composing members: 0

12 Answers

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Sure, but it’s just a mental warning flag that you may be on the wrong track and need a different kind of exit. Like a break, change or re-evaluation.

I have to take your post quite seriously and ask that you please, please speak to a counselor as soon as possible.

On a personal note I’m quite unhappy with my life right now but I realize that this is a temporary situation and things will change. Life is about all of the little rough spots and surviving them. Something that helps me is to look at people differently. The vast majority are struggling through life as well and viewing them negatively makes you feel negative about yourself. I always try to reason in my head what are the root causes that make someone act the way they do and I usually come to the conclusion that it’s not generally their fault. In the end I end up having more compassion for them even if they have wronged me.

FYI, I’m agnostic so that’s not a religious pep talk. It works and you’ll feel better. Now pick up that phone and call a counselor who will listen to you. Please check in with us as well.

ZEPHYRA's avatar

I do not want to go into it because I will make your mood even worse. Just move on and let them be.

kritiper's avatar

For some time I have and continue to be in the process of considering that this very subject is a result of pure sanity. To see life so clearly for what it is and/or what it has become that the thought of what you ask comes to mind in people.

talljasperman's avatar

That’s why I sleep all day and lay prone and Fluther all night.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

@cazzie Hey lady, hang in there. Do not think along those lines. I’ve been there and done that. It get’s better and I’m guessing you have people relying on you that would be hurt by something like an exit. Get some help if all else fails.

Esedess's avatar

Nope… Oh I’ve been so sad or angry that I’ve lightly contemplated ending it before, but I’ve never thought I lived enough. The infinite possibilities of the universe are too tempting to overshadow a momentary but permanent fix to an ever changing life. Besides, as bad as anything has ever been for myself, I can look right within my own family for someone who is actually justified in those kinds of thoughts, unlike I will ever be.

I have a younger brother who has a lot of medical issues. He had a heart transplant at 2, a suppressed immune system now, learning disabilities, diagnosed emotional/social/intellectual immaturity, legally blind eyesight, a stomach that can’t handle most foods that has resulted in everything from (failed) surgically implanted feeding tubes to chemo. When he was in a chemically induced coma for 40+ days 1 year ago someone nicked a vein doing a kidney biopsy and as a result of the internal bleeding it caused, they had to cut open his chest and stomach muscles to drain the blood. When they stitched him back up, they didn’t know if they were going to have to go back in and do more work or not, so they only stitched the skin back together and not his abdominal muscles underneath. The result, now that it healed like that, is that now he basically looks pregnant all the time.
So right now, at 18 years old (with attractive girls around that I’m sure he would love to have a chance with), he’s about 4’ 8” tall, sterile, overweight (which is preferable to the dwindling 50lbs he was last year) and incapable of exercise, has a weird (and by all accounts unattractively deformed body), can’t eat anything good without getting sick, just barely started puberty this year, still has trouble coloring inside the lines but is smart enough to know it, and is painfully sick with some of the best doctors in the world completely stumped. There’s much more but I think you get the gist. He got the short end of every stick. And all this while watching his perfectly healthy and smart twin sister go off to college next year.

My problems can be fixed. His cannot. Even if he was magically dropped into your imagination of “the perfect life” he would still be him and have all these debilitating/permanent problems. If he’s strong enough to keep living for a tomorrow that will still be worse than any day I’m likely to live ever, then people like me have absolutely no right contemplating suicide. As bad as you think your life might be, I’m sure my brother would happily trade you in a heartbeat. For his sake at least, don’t squander it.

Besides all that… If you really can’t stand this life that much, I wouldn’t fret over. It doesn’t require your intervention, it’ll be over soon enough regardless. We don’t live long. Might as well soak it up while you can. Even if it’s just pain.

wildpotato's avatar

Nope. Although I have diagnoses of major depression, generalized anxiety, IBS, and feel like a little ball of stress almost constantly, I love life, and am lucky enough to be at a point where I love my life. Took a long time to get here.

I hope you are ok, caz. Hang in there. And get the hell out of that country you hate! (I know, it’s not as simple as all that or you would’ve done it already – still a good goal though, eh?)

Misspegasister28's avatar

Yeah, pretty much. Everyone has noticed that I’ve just become such a bitter, angry person… I hold grudges for years, anything is enough to piss me off, and I’m so tired of interacting with people. Even the slightest thought of even having to see the people I know is enough to put me in a bad mood for the rest of the day, or give me anxiety. Which is so stupid because when I was little I always wanted so many friends, but now I can’t stand people and talking with them even for a minute exhausts me so much.

The idea of ending it all is always on the back of my mind. It’s background noise. It’s always just there. I’ve come close a few times, but no one has really noticed.

My only way of escape is graduating high school early next year, which is what I’m gonna do because I hate it. The people and environment are just too toxic for me, and my patience is has been decreasing this year especially.

Blackberry's avatar

Well yea, but I still wanna have some fun. Plus suicide hurts too many people.

JLeslie's avatar

When I was in my mid teens.

Then in my late 20’s I felt like for the rest of my life I would have to deal with a really shitty health problem, and I was not actively suicidal, but in a sort of passive way if death had come it would not have been so bad. That health problem has been one of the great sadnesses of my life. I felt imprisoned for years by it, and now I don’t feel that way to the extreme I used to, but I feel like I never got to be the person I was supposed to be. It like my mind does not match my body or what I really live with.

The last year has been one of the worst of my life! Oddly, I never had a hint of wanting to check out of life. I have felt more than ever that people can be horribly unscrupulous, greedy, and incompetent, although that basic feeling is a repeat of what I went through in my teens. I wasraised by a family that was honest, trustworthy, and reliable, and I have never been able to handle unfairness and people who will always try to take advantage of others.

In the US taking advantage of others is on a huge upswing in my opinion and seemingly supported by “the church.” It’s really difficult to make sense of it. I know people who are very generous, support charities, help friends and strangers, and at the same time fully support corporate greed, not providing education for children, and a host of other things, and they tie it up in a bow with God and country.

SQUEEKY2's avatar

Yeah every once in a while but my love for Mrs Squeeky keeps me going , plus I wouldn’t want her to face all those assholes alone.

cheebdragon's avatar

Other people are the worst part of life.

Answer this question

Login

or

Join

to answer.
Your answer will be saved while you login or join.

Have a question? Ask Fluther!

What do you know more about?
or
Knowledge Networking @ Fluther