What is meaningless sex?

Sexual intercourse without any pretext of love and/or commitment.
I used to have an arrangement like this with a girl from work. She was essentially a penis holster. We stopped after about 5 months when I realized I wasn’t being faithful to what I wanted in life.

What @filmfann says is strictly true in terms of who you’re humping & the circumstances.
Of course, sex itself, the act, is never meaningless, it’s fucking lovely.

I don’t know. I’ve heard the expression often enough and it always takes me aback. It’s like saying “meaningless dessert.” I guess it must mean sex without obligation.

To me it means sex without love or romantic feelings. One night stands come to mind.

I can’t go there. If I let you get that close to me physically, we have to have some connection. I guess I’m wired weird or something.

I understand that a lot of people use it to mean “sex without love”, but it’s always seemed like a misuse of the word “meaning” to me. A mindless shag can have meaning, even if only in the moment.

Sex when you are alone.

It means going through the animal motions minus any emotional or spiritual connection. Anyone can fuck, but to truly make love there needs to be a mind and heart connection aside from bumping body parts.

When the other ones are unconscious.

Kind of like mutual masturbation.

It’s sex without feelings, but what matters is knowing that it’s not wrong. Some people use the term in a derogatory way as if all sex should have some deep meaning or goal to it.

@Blackberry Hey, I always have at least one goal, and hopefully more than one when I have sex. Shoots, scores.

I’d like to try it with someone, sometime, and I’ll report back.

I agree it is not “wrong” but it’s just as easy to pleasure yourself without all the effort it takes to find a fuck buddy if you ask me. I think men are better at meaningless sex that a lot of women. I’d rather just whip out the silver bullet. lol

I used the term ‘meaningless sex’ and yes, as has been said. to me it’s sex with a person you don’t have any emotional connection to. The purpose of the sex is simply to get off. I agree that might not be a bad thing if that’s what you need, however in the context of the other question, people might choose not to have sex to avoid getting involved in those situations.

Personally, I couldn’t even enjoy sex if there wasn’t some minimal emotional connection. If there isn’t some human element of connection it’s as @majorrich says “mutual masturbation”.

That said, is there anything wrong with “mutual masturbation” ? That depends on your idea of what sex is and what gives it meaning.

What is meaningless? It depends on the person.

For one person physical sensation has enough meaning to keep the sex from being meaningless. For another “mutual masturbation isn’t enough to give meaning.

I have nothing against “recreational” sex as long as it’s honest, that is, both people understand that it’s “recreational”. If one doesn’t, it means the other person is taking advantage of them and their emotional vulnerability.

It’s a gift to give yourself to another human being in the sexual act. Oh sure we joke, and some of us want to trivialize it, reduce it to an animal urge, a biological impulse. But I don’t buy that. We are connected emotionally, physically and mentally. Each of us is one human person not 3 separate and distinct entities. When you have sex/make love to another person what you are sharing is intensely personal. If you choose to see it as purely physical you are in denial of your own essence as a human being, your integrity, i.e. “wholeness”.

No such thing.

Let’s ask a poet!

‘Sex Without Love’ by Sharon Olds

Nice @CugelTheClueless !

An excuse for people to fulfill short term desires…often with very unhealthy consequences.

@Apparently_Im_The_Grumpy_One pfffft, who needs an excuse? I never needed one.

Meaningless sex is as lonely as it gets. It’s actually very pitiful and sad if you ask me. And I’m not saying I haven’t done it.

@Apparently_Im_The_Grumpy_One It can be, yes. But for the most part I quite enjoyed it before I met my husband.