He/she is a great person, fits me like a glove, but what number of kids are too many for you to enter a relationship with them?

>2.
I would want my own kids too, but I also don’t want to be Mike Brady.

If I were single the age of the children and how the children behaved would matter. If a child is 16 and obnoxious, probably I can ignore it. The kid is almost out of the house.

If there are 2 out of control, angry, defiant, young kids, that might scare me off. On the other hand if someone had 4 good children, I would be fine with it. By good I don’t mean they have to be perfectly obedient, but simply you can see they are happy and fairly compliant to rules and care about others.

Did you know that a male lion that recently became the alpha of his pride, kills the cubs of the previous alpha?
I think that would be a good, natural, conservative approach to be adopted by humans.

It would not only be the children that I’d consider but the man’s relationship with his former wife/significant other. I’ve had friends enter into relationships with men who have demanding former wives, and yes, of course there are two sides to the story, but that would influence our relationship so it would be a consideration for me.

@ragingloli I think that happens a lot in the U.S. Step fathers or boyfriends seem to kill their SO’s children at an alarming rate.

Fortunately, the term “relationship” is fuzzy enough that any weasel answer must suffice. There are just too many variables. It could well be that a single “problem” child might be a “deal breaker”.

One. One would be too many for me.

I have a grown daughter age 27 now so any dependent kids would be a deal breaker. I dated a man back in 2008–9 that had 2 kids ages 12 and 14 and my daughter was on her own and age 21 at the time. Way too much drama and obligation with his kids pre- and teen needs, activities, and the ex wife drama. No thanks. Been there, done that, don’t want to do it again. Gah!

I think she should be judged harshly for not keeping her previous relationship together, especially because there were kids involved. Keeping things stitched together instead of tearing apart the seams, you might say. She’s simply not worthy of you.

@cazzie

If only life were that black and white.

There is an inherent contradiction the question. IF the number of kids is too much, she doesn’t fit you like a glove. Can’t fall for the mom and not fall for the kids. It’s a package deal.

If they’re not mine? Any kids.

Raising children is tough enough when you start from scratch with your own recipe. I have the greatest respect for anyone that is a great step-parent because I do not have that in me,