Have you ever had anyone pester you for money?

Yes.. My answer doesn’t really need much explaining.

You must not have any kids yet…lol.

Just telemarketers and charity solicitors in front of grocery stores.

How about your friends, not relatives or telemarketers?

@IheartMypuppy No, that has never happened to me before. Most people that I know, personally, know that I don’t have a lot of money, so it would be kind of fruitless for them to ask for any. However, that being said, I have given and loaned money to a couple of different friends who had even less money than I do, and they needed it more. One needed to hire a lawyer to fight an ugly legal battle against an unscrupulous employer, in which I was a witness and had to be subpoenaed. The other one needed money to buy food, as he had lost his job, and subsequently his home.

I never “loan” money with the expectation of getting it back. Luckily, though, I always have gotten it back. I don’t just loan money willy nilly, though, and it was usually my idea, rather than the friends asking me for it.

I don’t have any friends or family members that have ever asked for money.

How about the reverse? ~

Yes and this could easily cause the killer instinct to come out if it is not your fault!

The details in your question, about anybody insisting that I owe them money or have to pay them back, implies that there was no money loaned in the first place. Is that what you are referring to? That someone is saying you owe money and you don’t? In other words, you don’t remember taking the loan? No. That has never happened to me.

Has anybody ever pestered to borrow from me? No. Either I say yes and lend it or I say no and then I don’t expect to be hounded.

The staff, bless.

Politicians are always pestering me for money. But other than that, no.

President and Mrs. Obama send me emails all the time asking for money. They call me by my first name, so that’s…..you know…..kind of flattering.

I haven’t sent anything, and they haven’t stopped asking..

Checkmate…

I come from people that will go out of their way to beat you out of a nickle, so no. I pretty much know where my money is and where it goes.

We had an employee who was also a farmer. He was in a bit of tax trouble and had a lien he was disputing. We worked it out with the IRS that we would hold the money until the dispute was resolved.
That year, when he took time off to harvest we discussed how he would pay the medical insurance premium and the cell phone bill that was part of his compensation for his job. Since he was going to be off 3–4 months we agreed that when the dispute was settled we would deduct it from the money we were holding.
My husband kept records of the bills and the dates he was gone.
About a year later, when the dispute was settled he threw a fit when we deducted the money.
He was an otherwise good employee so we agreed to split it with him and gave him half of the money we spent. (Insurance for him and his wife was over $800 a month. )
The following year, when it came time to harvest we told him we would pay the bills as a bonus but to hurry back because we really needed him.
We later learned that he went on a cruise with mutual friends when he was supposed to be harvesting.
When he finally came back to work he worked 1 week then had heart surgery. We continued to pay his insurance and phone for another 8 months without work. When we finally told him we would have to put him on cobra he bad mouthed us to all our friends, many of whom sided with him and never even asked us our side of the story.
Sometimes being the nice one just doesn’t pay.

@Judi, I have heard that sort of story too many times, it really makes you wonder what the future will be like with all those sorts of people.

And to everyone else, just answer however you would like :)

My relative in America texted me wanting 100$. Due to the time difference, this was about 2am. 100$ usd is about 130$ to me. Plus the Western Union fees. I declined. She got shirty about it.

@trailsillustrated (you don’t need to answer) but why on earth did she want $100???

My brother kept leaving me increasingly belligerent messages about giving him money supposedly for a prep course for his LSATs. He was strung out on meth at the time. I told him that I would help pay for his LSATs directly when the time came, but I would not be giving him any cash. At the end of the day, my inbox would be filled with these angry hateful messages from him.

Weeks later, he OD’d.

After he died, I used to sit in the car by myself and play these messages over and over again. It was his voice. But it wasn’t him. I don’t know why I did that exactly. Psychologically masochistic, I guess.

Oh @fluthernutter, that’s so sad. I did something similar when my first husband died. It was before cell phones and we couldn’t afford an answering machine. We had this little tape recording message center someone gave us as a gift. It was not working well but I could hear “I love you” and played it over and over again.

@fluthernutter and @Judi, I am really sorry for your losses (I know that sounds shallow, but I do mean it)

@IheartMypuppy she said she had “lost money” going out (partying). She finally went to another relative there and got 80$. @fluthernutter that is heartbreaking. Hugs.

@fluthernutter he ODd on meth or was he mixing it with something else? It’s kinda rare to hear that someone ODs on meth alone.

@Judi I’m sorry you had to go through that. Hopefully listening to them helped. [hugs]

@IheartMypuppy and @trailsillustrated Thanks. It’s not shallow.

@cheebdragon As far as I know, just meth. But he was buying it from anyone. So I wouldn’t be surprised if it were cut with other things. Though strokes are pretty consistent with meth overdose. Sadly, not that rare.

I do try to have zero bills although sometimes you do need loans. When I was in college I had to borrow some to get by at times but, I always paid them back right away so I wouldn’t be a “Bum.”

I was very close to an aunt that called me to say goodbye the night that she died (basically old age). I didn’t answer, so she left a message on my machine. It was heartbreaking that she knew, and that I missed the chance to speak with her one last time. I listened to the message a number of times, and left it on the machine for a year or so. One day I did a huge mental sigh and deleted it. It wasn’t her, and there was no good reason for it to hang around.