What family topics do you really feel uncomfortable discussing?

Death doesn’t make me feel so uncomfortable, but some family issues do. I just hate it when my aunts and uncles try to reveal each other’s issues (and maybe my family’s). It turns the family into some kind of hateful competitors.

I hate that everyone kept the family secret that my BIL is a pedophile.
Even now that it’s out in the open some family members want to pretend like it didn’t ever happen. My sister who is still married to the guy won’t talk to me because I told her to stop pushing him on my other sister when my mom was dying. She kept trying to send him to her house to do errands and the sister whose house it was didn’t even want him to know where she lived.
Elephants in the room that no one is willing to talk about are the worst.

My brother and sister are single. I hate when other relatives bring this up as a topic for discussion when they’re not there. Like there’s something wrong with them because they haven’t married and aren’t in committed relationships. It makes me feel I have to defend them when in truth I think it’s their business and why should they have to be in a relationship? I don’t want to discuss their private business and I’d rather people didn’t raise it with me.

It’s impossible for my brother and me to talk about anything without its becoming a “he said/he said” match. So we simply don’t talk.

My parents sex lives.

Religion, politics, sex

My mothers care. She lives with my sister half way across the country away and while my sister loves mom and does whatever is necessary for mom when she needs it; my brother and I feel that she is taking advantage of the situation, spending moms money on things that benefit her and her family while only providing the minimum necessary for her.

While I know that it is not cheap to take care of someone 24/7 she has run through all of moms checking account, savings account and spends every penny of the $1500.00 that mom brings in every month. There is nothing to show for it. Other than a new car for my sister, bigger than she “wanted” because she had to get something mom could get in and out of. When she first took mom in she had me draw up plans to convert the garage into a mother-in-law suite that would be handicap accessible and elderly friendly. I did so, priced it out, keeping the design and construction costs to a minimum and gave it to my sister to implement. It never got done. We have not even been able to get her to build a ramp to eliminate the two steps up into the house, she says there no money. A new shower or walk-in tub to replace the existing one which is a constant danger to someone moms age, again, no money for it.

Sis only works two days a week but is gone most days, never cooks, all food is fast food bought and brought in. Her youngest graduated from HS last year and went off to college about 2 hours away. Sis and Hubby have managed to make every game, home and away including those in other states, which means that they have to arrange for overnight and longer care. To do this they hire a sister-in-law to do so, which helps her survive since she does not have a full time job either

My brother has volunteered to take mom for half the year but my sister wants nothing to do with it, saying that she would miss her too much. We think it is because she would miss the income. He asked for $5000 from moms estate to remodel part of his house, making a elderly accessible shower/bathroom and a private bedroom on the ground floor. To do this he would sacrifice his game room, laundry room and half bath. The money would just cover most materials and some parts and all labor would be donated by family. This was when we found out there was no savings left. I volunteered to split the cost with him and he was fine with that but again, sister says no it would be too much hardship on mom to make the trip from Alabama to Texas and back twice a year.

Sorry for the rant. Every time we talk about any part of moms care my sister gets pissed and won’t call or take my call for months on end so we try to avoid mention of it to try to maintain familial harmony.

Uncle Ben’s rice allergy, so, so embarrassing.

My husband’s family tends to gossip about people and their medical issues. It’s annoying as hell to me.
At a family reunion once I started feeling peckish, so I went to the car to lie down. 30 minutes later I was feeling better so I rejoined the party. It was annoying as fuck when almost every single family member asked, with great concern, how I was doing. My husband just had to share with them how I was feeling. IMO, that’s personal.

Not so much anymore because they gave up, but the when are you going to have kids, they hounded us for the first ten years of our marriage, drove me crazy to go to the inlaws during that time, they wouldn’t except that we chose not to, and wouldn’t leave it alone.