How to tell if someone's a lesbian?
I’m 16, I’m a female.On an early morning, I was passing by some department stores.I use that route almost every time. Anyway, the lady in one of the department stores (make-up)caught my attention, and came closer. She wanted to apply make-up to my face and asked whether I would agree.I wasn’t so sure but I said,“OK.” She wanted to know where I was staying ,and I told her. Then, she asked me whether my mom will give permission.I told her I didn’t know but I could ask her. Finally, she asked me for my number and said she will call in a couple of minutes, to see what my mom’s decision was. I told my mom,but she said no. Later I showed a picture of the woman (Freeda) to my mom. she said she’s a lesbian, So there is no way she would allow me to meet up with her. l just want to know your opinions.Can you tell whether someone is a lesbian, just from looking at her picture?
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Welcome to fluther. I’m male and I so wanted to respond if she won’t do me she must be a lesbian. ~ But there isn’t anyway to tell without getting to know her better. She just could be into her job.
She kept staring at me,like eye to eye,in a really weird way.
Okay, when I was in college we had a speaker in a class, he was a gay rights activist. He said if a guy maintained a lot of eye contact with him, he thought they were gay. I make a lot of eye contact with everyone, and I’m straight. I’m comfortable with myself, so I’m not going to change, but make of that what you want.
The only way anyone could know for sure is to ask her.
I feel that you can’t usually judge a book by its cover.
For me, the bigger issue is whether she, as a store employee, is conducting herself properly. She may be a lesbian or simply an overly aggressive salesperson, but either way, if she makes you uncomfortable with her questions (which I consider unnecessarily probative), find someone else to help you with your makeup.
As for how to know a person’s sexual orientation, it’s their business to tell you if they wish, not yours to ask. Personally, I look forward to the day when nobody cares about it one way or the other.
@Adirondackwannabe I don’t know. I was basically just making a point. I don’t think there is any way to “just know”
I agree with @Pachy. Those questions don’t seem like ones someone you don’t know should be asking you, especially for your age, regardless of the person’s sexuality.
@anniereborn I’m so bad today. My first impulse was to say I could just whip my tool out and see what her reaction was. Sorry. I’ll slap myself.
Prolonged eye contact may or may not mean anything. Assume that it doesn’t and just ask her.
@Pachy Laughs, touché`. @curiosity_kills Don’t get scared off of this site. I’m not usually this bad. There are a lot of good peeps here.
@Adirondackwannabe, just messin’ with ya, I couldn’t resist. And I agree—lots of great people here, and you’re one of them!
@Adirondackwannabe “How do you pull that off with class?”
“Dear madam, I would like to make a personal inquiry – are you now, or have you ever been, a runcher?”
I don’t think there is any way to tell from your experience. I don’t think they have to wear a sign or anything. You might ask your mom since she was the one who put the idea out there, maybe she has additional information or knowledge.
Birkenstocks and a lot of pets.
plus she’ll really be in to other chicks.
Her nipples get hard when she watches Wonder Woman/Charlie’s Angels.
You have to ask. Some of us are lucky to have gaydar.
Gaydar can’t be mentioned, someone might find it a slight.
What a strange situation this woman has put you in. Why would she ask for your number? Why would you need your mother’s permission to try make up when you are 16? Why did she need to know where you were staying to apply make up? It’s all a bit odd and suspicious. I don’t think her sexual orientation is relevant but her behaviour certainly is – perhaps your mother used “lesbian” to mean “suspicious”. Which isn’t very nice to lesbians but her request to stay away from this person is right, in my opinion. Please stay safe and don’t have anything more to do with her. But please don’t think that lesbians are all bad or indeed all good, just that they are human beings.
And I am ashamed of most of the rest of you lot. This might be in Social but it’s a serious question
Only people with Praydar would take slight to the term Gaydar.
I thought the questions, such as where do you live, could have been a way of determining whether or not she (the OP) was a minor and/or whether she could make decisions such as whether or not to wear makeup on her own. And possibly whether she could afford to purchase the products. The sales woman was covering her own butt not wanting to have an angry parent charging down making a scene or demanding a reimbursement. Also, she asked for her number and was going to call “in a couple of minutes” but it sounds like she did not do so.
And the main question is can you tell a persons sexual leanings from a photograph and I think the short answer to that is no, you can not. It is not unlike asking if you can determine someones sexual preference based on the footwear or whether they are wearing pants or a skirt.
@Hypocrisy_Central “Gaydar can’t be mentioned, someone might find it a slight.”
Only folks who can’t stand being reminded of the fact that gays exist take offense at the term “gaydar”.
^ I have used it once or twice here and someone took offence, I have no compunction about using it.
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Maybe their offense was less about the word itself and more about the general attitude you display.
^ Not my fault if they are looking for something that isn’t there. It is like bad fortune, if you believe something bad will find you when you leave the house, you will invent something to fit the projection.
^ I’m sure. Considering some of your posts about gays (women too, for that matter) that I’ve seen I can only imagine you phrase it in the most un-offensive, non-prejudiced way possible.
I am gay. I have gaydar. Deal with it.
^^ ping . . . ping . . . ping . . .
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