Do you not think it rude if my husband asks me to make dinner and then cancels after I have made the preparations to go out with one of his friends instead for dinner ?

You should get a big fork to skewer his nuts & yell…”meatballs dear!”

It is rude.

Sounds like you all ready have a child. The man has made you to be his mother. Make meals for your self and leave a TV dinner for your husband. Repeat until he learns his lesson.

Very rude.

Yes, it is very rude.

Yep. A passive aggressive wife would stop making dinner.

“Why are men so crap at communication.”
What a rude thing to say.

Another vote for rude. However, I agree with @josie that the suggestion ‘men’ in general are poor communicators is wrong. Some are, some are not. In the case of your husband, I don’t think this is a case of poor communication. If the situation is as you described it, it sounds like contempt for your needs, work and feelings.

If he does it once, it may be excusable. More than once, there’s a message.

Does your dislike for men (men are crap at communications, you wrote), translate into bitchiness the rest of the time? Does he not want to eat at home with you because you make the meals angry and unpleasant?

There are two sides to every story. All we heard is your side. And my guess is that there is more to it than you’re telling us.

Inconsiderate? Yes.

There is a saying: “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” If this is the first time the partner has done something like this, then just let him know how it made you feel. If he has done it before, then learn to ask for more details. He was vague and you made an assumption. The lack of communication is the issue, not men in general.

I would call it inconsiderate, controling and if it happened a lot, abusive. Rude is not the word that would come to my mind. I wouldn’t get all wound up the first time, I would just let him know I had already spent time on dinner and would have appreciated a call as soon as he knew he was changing his plan for dinner. If he is understanding, then all good. If he doesn’t care, not good. If he often doesn’t care and doesn’t respect your time and efforts then that is a big problem.

okay I will edit the question and leave the “men” part out.

I have to agree with @elbanditoroso, on some points. If it were a one time thing, or seldom, I would chalk it up with familiarity, and expect an apology for his thoughtlessness in taking you for granted. If it is his customary behavior, then you have a much bigger issue to face. Will you attempt to salvage your relationship, and work together to heal one another, or will you choose to ditch the bum? Well, I would think his good points would weigh heavily in such a decision, and you didn’t mention any of his character strengths.
To address the initial point of your question, yes. It was a rude move.