Should a married person hang out with a single person of the opposite sex at their house alone?
For me personally I would not do it, even if I knew nothing was going to happen. I just think it is best to avoid such close situations when married or give people cause to talk, especially if you work together.
I also think that when you are married you sometimes need to avoid certain situations that you probably wouldn’t say you were still single and in college.
Also if the friend of the opposite sex has had relationships with married people whether out of stupidity or not. Do you not think that is even more of a red flag ?
I personally don’t have a problem with being friends of the opposite sex at work but I leave it there after work is over.
What do you think ?
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I think that if you trust yourself and your committed relationship, it isn’t an issue.
That said, I also think that every new friendship feels like a “crush”. I fall in love with new friends of all genders and I feel giddy/happy when I meet my kindred spirits.
I have a wonderful male friend at work who was willing to put his job on the line to support me (turned out to be unrequired) and I fell in love… and also with his wife, who is equally wonderful.
It’s a dopamine trigger, I think. You’re allowed to love people. Possessing them is the problem.
It depends entirely on the situation. I’m a married woman and once we had a very nice single man live with us for several months. Hanging out? Yep, quite often. Even if hubby wasn’t home. Not once did he cross the line, but he wasn’t good at cleaning up his dirty dishes.
The answer of course varies with the individuals.
Really, if this is a concern you have bigger problems. If the person is willing to cheat they are willing to cheat. It doesn’t matter if it at this persons house or a bar. In fact I would say they are more likely to bang a random at a bar. Less chance of getting caught.
I agree with @Blueroses You can enjoy all kinds of people outside of your marriage and I don’t think we should ever limit our potential friendships based on insecurities, whether ourselves or our partners.
If they’re friends. There would only be a problem if there was some real risk of them taking their friendship to a romantic or sexual level. A man and a woman can spend time together without anything untoward happening.
NO, why would one put himself in that position?
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I am friends with couples where I may go visit and the wife is at the store or something, and so I’ll sit and make small talk with the husband until the wife gets home. It’s not the same as “hey, wait till your wife goes out and then I’ll come hang out for Saturday night.” If I were married, I’d probably not expect my husband to go out with single lady friends.
Wasn’t there someone on here whose husband wanted to go out with another couple and leave her home alone, and he was also taking her (his wife, the Jelly) car?
I’m not gonna should on anyone.But yes, I would do it. And I don’t care if my husband does either.
It depends on the individuals, their relationship, and the circumstances. I think it’s something that should be discussed in advance, and if one person isn’t comfortable with it, then the other needs to respect that.
I try my best not to make rules for other people.
Sure. Without a generous scoop of trust, any relationship is doomed.
I agree with @janbb and @longgone. And every time this question gets asked, I feel sorry for all those who express—implicitly or explicitly—lack of faith in their partners.
Perhaps the issue is lack of faith in themselves.
So long as all parties involved are cool with it.
I would trust myself and my husband. But I would also respect the other person’s significant other’s boundaries.
While I think it’s kind of lame to not trust your partner, I’d rather hang out at a bar or something than cause unnecessary drama.
I have more guy friends than girl friends. So I’ve had my share of navigating crazy jealous girlfriends.
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