How to convince parent to let you do all star cheer ?

Why does she think you are bad?

How are you going to get to that gym? And how are you going to get the money for it? Is the money your saving or do you have to ask for it from her?

Is your mother saying no because it’s a physical impossibility to get there or no because she doesn’t want you to do this thing? If she just can’t get you there, then you need to give it up unless there is another transport option that you’ve not mentioned. Could you find a place that is within walking/cycling/bus ride distance?

But if she is saying no because she doesn’t want to let you do it then you could ask her (calmly and when she is calm) why not. Listen to what she says and try to see her reasons from her point of view. For example if she says ‘I don’t want to pay for all the clothes and transport because you will just give it up after a month’ then think about whether she is right and what you could do to show that you are serious. For example you could offer to pay for some of it with your own money. Or you could say that you will shower and study as she asks for the next couple of months and after you have done this, will she let you join?

To be blunt, you come across in your writing as being rather spoiled and used to getting your own way. Changing your behaviour and acting more adult and responsible might be just what she wants to see. You never know – treating other people differently might make them treat you differently too.

@Stinley geez, she’s only 12, cut her a break.

@xoxocassie_12 Is that right? You’re 12 years old? I’d like to hear a bit more about this problem and why your mother thinks you are bad and why she thinks you aren’t showering enough. (If you are 12, you should be showering every day and then after gym class and using deoderant.) It stinks feeling like you are missing out on what other kids get to do. You are young and still have to listen to your mother.

Being involved in a team sport like cheer is very healthy social development for you. If you can go with a friend then you’ve got the transport stuff sorted. Are there any other girls that go to cheer who’s mothers also make them read the bible? You could read together in the car on the way, perhaps, or listen to readings on your headphones? Does your mother know any of the other girls or their parents? It might be an idea to get them over to talk to your mom about giving you a ride and telling her the positive things about being involved with the cheer team.

I hope things work themselves out. I was a cheer leader in junior high, when I was 12. I did it for 2 years and then decided I didn’t like it anymore because the other girls teased me for how I was. I realise now that I was a nerd, and being a nerd was and is better than being a cheerleader. I hope you get a chance to try things and find out who you are.

Maybe she really can’t afford the 3,200 but at 12 years old, you don’t really know the value of money.
Or it could be because you “don’t listen to her.” Why should she reward your bad behavior?

Well I do have the money and I could carpool or take the bus but the bus ride is way to long. She’s more in the middle so its a maybe for cheer @chyna @stinley

@stinley ^

Then why doesn’t she let you go? Maybe because she thinks the road is too long, and she doesn’t trust you when you go that far? Or maybe because she think you are bad? I think @chyna is right that she is annoyed that you don’t listen to her. And the reason why she thinks you are bad may be that you think she is annoying.

I suggest you start persuading her by behaving well first. Start with listening to her and doing what she wants (read the bible and take more shower, after all I don’t see anything wrong with these things). Earn some trust from her. Your friends can go because they prove themselves to be well-behaved and reliable, and their parents don’t have to worry when they are at the gym.

If OP is really only 12, she is too young to be a member.

I think $3200 is a lot more than you think it is. So many kids seem to think that just because there is more than that in the bank, it’s no problem to just take that much out. It doesn’t work that way.

“I don’t really listen to her Cuz she’s annoying”

Gee, no idea why she might think you’re bad.

Gyms do carpool and I used to do gymnastics

I’m not 12 just in case u didn’t know my fave # is 12

For $3200 your entire family could go on vacation. Cheer is a waste of time and resources, it’s not setting you up for any future careers unless your goal in life is to be a gym teacher.
Gas isn’t free and cars don’t fix themselves, every added mile just decreases the value a little more.
Don’t be a brat, just listen to your mom.

If she is telling you to take more showers, you probably smell. Go shower.

I used to do competitive dance and gymnastics and it cist way more than cheer all together. And I take the same amount of showers as my mom and my sisters that r in college dont say I smell they bother me too much. Like my nephew thts two told me tht Cuz his dad says tht to everyone and my mom thought it was cute and said the same thing
@cheebdragon

I don’t think cheer is a total waste of time and resources, but $3200 COULD buy your entire family a really nice vacation to an upscale resort. Its probably more money than one of your parents make in an entire month.

It’s a LOT of money.

Even if they have the money in the bank, it’s not just stuff to kick around. Adults need to save money for emergencies. We just had the central air conk out and it set us back over $5000. I’d be kicking myself if we went on a luxury vacation and then couldn’t afford air conditioning for the rest of the summer.

You could take the same amount of showers as your mom, but you are probably a lot more active than she is. If she is suggesting more showers, there is a reason.