@SQUEEKY2 – I think you’re struggle here is not unique, and older generations have always found something to blame for [whatever they determine is the decline of civilization]. When I was younger, people railed against video games, PCs in the home, Walkmen/portable cassette radios, heavy metal, lyrics in music, pornography, TV, the home telephone, the invention if email, etc. Each one was seen as destroying society, and youth in particular. Moral panics have been incessant. And each one was presented in a predictable formula:
incorrect info or oversimplication of something new
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a myth about how things “used to be”, which was entirely inaccurate
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fear
But in all of these cases, it was always just people attempting to understand that which was different from what they had known and grew up with. Change. It’s inevitable, and needn’t trigger an instant panic.
Does change pose challenges as well as opportunity? Of course. Do we generally have periods of adjustment as we try to find a balance? Sure.
There are so many things that have drastically changed everything about human behavior and interaction throughout history (written word, electricity, artificial light, telephone, TV, plastics, fossil fuels, schools, agriculture, etc). It’s not new. And the fear that some people have of change is also not new. But we’ll get through it and be ok.
As to your concerns that some people are just staring at a screen all day. Sure. But not everyone. And these are the people that would not have been thriving in rich face-to-face relationships prior to the invention of the smartphone. Humans vary (and always have) in their needs and ability to interact with people constantly. Introverts find it odd that some people believe that smartphones are hurting their ability to form meaningful relationships and have real interactions. This is just not true in any way.
But more importantly, everyone I know uses smartphones in the following way…
– I am able to be more present in my daily life – with my kids and wife, and in general – because it frees me up to just be here right now.
– I live a busy, scheduled life (full-time job, 3 kids, etc). I don’t want to be taken out of the moment of playing with my kids to try to figure out if I have an appointment or have to be somewhere. I just am. Outside and enjoying life. My phone tells me if I have to be somewhere and when I have to leave – even taking current traffic conditions into consideration.
– If I’m driving down the street on my way home and I remember something I have to do when I get home. Rather than spend my whole ride home repeating “you have to remember, you have to remember”, I just speak out loud, “Ok Google, remind me to pay electricity bill at home”. When I arrive at home, my phone tells me to “pay electricity bill”. I have a personal assistant that frees my mind from rumination and busy work.
– When I’m out and want to take a photo, I always have my camera with me, right on my phone.
– If my wife says, “The next time you’re at Whole Foods, can you get [x]?”, I don’t need to try to remember. It could be days before I’m back there. All I do is put it in my phone. When I arrive at Whole Foods the next time, it will know and pop up that reminder for me.
– If I’m out with the kids and we need to get some place, I simply speak to my phone, “Ok Google, navigate to [place]”, and it finds the closest route for me – taking traffic into consideration.
To repeat – I am more present and less distracted, despite the fact that my life is more complicated, because of smartphone technology. I don’t remember the last time I used the thing for making a phone call. I don’t – and nobody I know – sits there texting or social networking all day long. We’re adults, and these are tools. The phones work for us, not the other way around.
So, it concerns me that you see a teenager playing with his/her phone and interpret it as an impending apocalypse. I don’t think you have too much to worry about.