Why are my friends so ignorant?

I don’t think the definition of “ignorant” is what is being described here.

I’m having a hard time figuring out what is happening with the friends. What is “hw”?

When do they seem to be disinterested in you?

Maybe you could re-write this question.

@Kardamom
Thanks for pointing that out, it was not specific enough.
Hw stands for homework.
They seem disinterested when we are not face-to-face. They never text me, ask me to hang out.

Why don’t you just ask them? It will be the quickest way to find out.

@kimchi Consideration runs in the same bell curve as most other behaviors. You just sound like you are very considerate and they are further down the scale then you. It’s human nature and sometimes we just have to accept it and expect they’ll enjoy time with you, but not always thinking of your feelings.

Many of my friends don’t initiate contact but are very happy when I make the plans. It just seems to work that way for me. If it makes you unhappy though, talk to them about it.

(And I think you mean that your friends ignore you, not that they are ignorant which would mean they don’t know much.)

I will often not initiate group get togethers because I am usually so busy, but if someone else does it, I’ll be happy to join (or not). It doesn’t seem like they’re ignoring you, just maybe that they’re busy too.

You shouldn’t be upset that your friends don’t chase after you. Here’s some advice that you probably haven’t considered. If your friends are happy to see you, and look to you for advice with things like homework, you’re popular enough, and almost certainly more popular than you think. Your situation sounds perfect. The problem with being so popular that everyone calls you first is that people pester you to death and drive you crazy. Believe me, you’re much better off with the choice in your own hands. You’re lucky!

I totally agree with @janbb on everything she says. I don’t think your friends are purposely or even consciously ignoring you—just living their own lives. If you enjoy being with them and they will you, either talk with them about your concern or simply be content to primarily serve as the initiator. By the way, this is a common issue and you will likely face it along the way in all aspects of your life.

As @stanleybmanly said, what you have could be a blessing in disguise. If you do really want things to change, you need to provide a new impression of yourself.
I haven’t read your whole question and response history, but what I have reviewed, you seem very precision oriented; a bit of a perfectionist. This leaves people feeling intimidated. That doesn’t mean they like you less. They probably just perceive you as someone they should call when things are planned well ahead. That is a compliment, really. If it bothers you, try loosening things up a bit. Send out group texts sometimes. “I’m bored, anybody up to doing anything?”
Really I think they are simply respecting your personality type, but doing that would help them to see you as more spontaneous.

@Here2_4
My gosh, how’d you know?! You’re right. I am a bit of a conscious person which can be a good thing and a bad thing….

The bad thing being that you think too much about everything, including such nonsense as “why don’t my friends call me first.

Are you one of the smarter people in your class?

@stanleybmanly That can be a big issue for many if you feel it is a pattern. I know I struggle with always being the initiator at times. Not nonsense at all.

With the word “ignorant” you were going to detail they are not as informed as you or something like that.