@LostInParadise: “It just seems to me that equal right to toplessness is not something to get worked up about. I personally think that clothing was a great invention and would prefer to see more of it, not less. If you are interested in woman’s rights then work on getting equal pay and equal job opportunities and access to reproductive care.”
There are number of things wrong with this paragraph.
1. You, as a member of a group who already enjoys a right, is not moved by the fact that others do not enjoy this right. You have the right, yet in a way you wish you didn’t.
This was a fairly common thing we heard years ago whenever the issue of same-sex marriage came up. “I don’t know why same-sex couple would even want to be married. Most marriages end up in divorce. And the pressure to tie the knot can end up ruining an otherwise committed relationship. Same-sex couples have the benefit of not even having to entertain the option.”
The fact that you find clothes a good invention and you would prefer to see more clothing on everyone is irrelevant. The fact that you can do something that half the population can’t is reason enough for anyone interested in fairness to either:
a) Fight for the rights of women to enjoy the same right of men to go topless.
or
b) Fight for more strict clothing laws that make the restrictions on men’s ability to go topless precisely as restrictive as for women.
2. You appear to be making a case that working towards equality needs to take a specific form. As a man, you have decided that the most important issues that women should be vigilant about should be equal pay, equal work, and access to reproductive care.
Again, because you are not moved by the issue of fairness regarding “decency” laws and normalizing the exposure of the female body, you dismiss this as not being important enough to worry about. This is also a common glitch in thought that has prohibited progress. Do you think that every time people were fighting for a right or looking to affect change, those who already enjoyed those rights saw the fight as a valid one? “We already give blacks their own water fountains to drink from. I can’t see why they are all worked up. If they want to work on equal rights, why don’t they….”.
3. Related to #2 above, implicit in your argument is an assumption that striving towards equality and fairness is one in which you must choose one or two issues. Do you not think it’s possible for women to fight for equal pay/work, actively support reproductive freedom, and still work towards freeing the nipple? Do you think it’s also possible that for some women, freeing the nipple is what moves them? Fighting this fight is not mutually exclusive with fighting other fights. And for many people, they might see these two as inextricably linked.
I consider you to be a very thoughtful and insightful person. This topic seems to be one of those areas that might be good for you to explore further. I don’t think calling you “sexist” serves any purpose. But in this case, the practice of checking one’s privilege may be useful for looking at the issue from another perspective.