I do see the other side of the coin. He has a problem that he needs to fix somehow, and he is concerned about his child’s welfare. That is why he bought a decent house in a decent neighborhood and spent a wad of money, I’m sure, on a Ford Expedition that barely fit in his garage when his kids were really young, because “he needed something bigger.” So yeah, I get that he’s concerned for his family’s welfare.
And he bought a house in a tract neighborhood where everyone’s homes are close to each other. In fact, our living room windows face each other and the day that I looked over and saw that his wife could look full on into my living room before I had the opportunity to buy shades, I adhered white garbage bags to my windows to block the view. Later, they spent considerable money to raise our common wall, although they can still see into my yard because their house sits above mine.
Everyone’s house is built to code, and I haven’t made modifications to add more light to the outside of my home. I’m just using what came with the house and in a reasonable manner. I think I’m allowed to do that.
Again, they purchased an outdoor blind to shade the front porch (more just a walk up).
So they’ve spent considerable time and effort modifying their house and making purchases to outfit their home to overcome design deficiencies. This situation with my porch light shouldn’t be much different, and it certainly shouldn’t be resolved by unscrewing my bulb as if it’s their prerogative to do so.
I guess my bottom line is that leaving my light on the rare occasion that I do is that it’s not an unreasonable thing for me to do. What if I have severe anxiety because my house was broken into in the past, and I need the light on to feel safe? I’m not saying this is the case, but who’s being unreasonable then?
Like I said, my common wall neighbors are noisy. If it’s such a problem I should probably find another living situation. But I’m not going to go over there and tell them to be quiet, and I’m not going to bang on my wall. They’re not living unusually, and they should feel free to live how they want. I shouldn’t have to second guess when I get to use my porch light because my neighbor won’t buy light-blocking curtains but would buy a house in a relatively tightly-packed neighborhood.
That’s the bigger picture.