Sex drive?

Start masturbating. Watch some real porn, not the fake kind but the real kind, made for women. You’ll be fine.

Everyone is different, however, a lack of sex drive can be related to drugs you may be taking or health problems. I’d speak to your doctor and make sure your health is fine. If it is, and you just have a very low libido, it may just be the way you are. So you can either accept you have a very low drive or do as @trailsillustrated suggested and try to ramp it up.

As @Earthbound_Misfit mentioned, there are some medications and some health issues that can affect sex drive. But if you’ve eliminated those as possibilities, don’t worry about it. Everyone’s different, and you are quite young – you may be a late bloomer. And just think of all of the poor decisions that your highly sexed friends make and be glad you don’t have to worry about being influenced in the same way.

@ceara Just relax. It will come when you get comfortable with your body and everything else. Don’t try to conform to society, most of which sucks.

There is really no right or wrong when it comes to sex and sex drives. It could be that you are simply asexual and there is nothing wrong with that but society does seem to stigmatize it. There are forums and support groups available to help out, Here is one but there are many more out there and don’t just stay online. These guys can put you in touch with real live folks who have a similar outlook.
If you are unhappy with the way you are then do have yourself checked out to make sure there are no underlying medical problems. And you can at least try the masturbation thing as @trailsillustrated suggested, if it doesn’t work out the first time, don’t get frustrated, allow yourself some time and try it again at some later date.

@ceara Okay, I’m trying to get my head around a penis size question, a down there question, and an attractiveness question. Why don’t you take my nuts so I don’t have to worry about this crap? See what it amounts to? Not much.

As others have said it may be a health issue get that checked and if it’s not and your still worried then give what @trailsillustrated suggested .

Have you ever felt attracted to someone ?

then the next question have you ever felt sexually attracted to someone ?

Does it bother not to have a sex drive ? Why ?

I would say go see a doctor just to cover all of your bases. Just because you do not have the urge to boink like bunnies or hump everything like a dog in heat, doesn’t make you weird, strange or abnormal (though US society may try to make you feel as such). I guess you have to look how much, if any, where you are now is a change from say 3–5 years ago.

Reproductive locomotion.

If you’re comfortable with your sex drive the way it is, don’t worry about it. These things can change over the course of a lifetime (or not) as our priorities shift (or not). Did you previously have a stronger drive, then lose it? That may well be medication, as others have said. Even the pill can cause a significant loss of libido.

Also, what someone else finds sexy might not be what you find sexy. @trailsillustrated mentioned porn – note that the printed word is more effective for some than video. ;)

But the takeaway here is that there is no right answer. If you’re happy the way you are, great. If not, try new things.

Just be sure NOT to date someone with a high drive…be honest about how you feel, what you aren’t feeling… don’t fake it to hang on to someone.. this would be devastating down the road… this will crush a man’s world…he will question his desirability and it will cause deep resentment, and frustration…

In the meantime.. seek to understand what “excites” you , gives you that tingling in the loins.. I have always had a healthy sex drive.. since probably age 11.. and felt the NEED to masturbate.. so it’s not something I can relate to… Just imagining being with someone who never “feels” like that.. would be crushing..

Seek a man with a similar drive as yourself for compatibility.. though this won’t be such an easy task.. given men are in their Prime sexually in their 20’s..

Question.. if you are taking hormonal birth control… or any type of meds.. (depression etc) this can ZAP your sex drive..