Is it better to say what you what or say what people want to hear?

What you what you what?

It’s always better to say what you mean in my opinion. You cannot go through life just thinking about what you think others want, or what others need. Also, it’s very similar to telling a lie isn’t it. You tell a lie, you have to remember that lie, similarly, you tell someone what “they want to hear, you have to remember what it was, in case it comes up again.

Stress. Life is hard enough at times already.

Tell the truth but be kind about it.

Prob best to say what you want in a way people want to hear.

It depends on the circumstances. It is not a good idea to hurt someone needlessly by being blunt if a small white lie will smooth things over. For example, “Of course, you look young for your age, grandma.”

Most of the time, however, it is best to speak the truth. You may choose to speak the truth only to yourself sometimes, but it is best to speak it. Telling people what they want to hear does not help them in the long run or you.

This depends on the situation. Let’s say a friend’s getting ready for a date and wants to know if something looks good on her. If it makes her look fat, the color isn’t good on her, etc., although she might be upset, you should tell her the truth, because in the long run, going to her date looking badly would upset her more. However, you should still break it to her kindly.

But suppose that someone from your school a few years ago recognizes you but you have no idea who they are, just pretend that you remember them because it won’t hurt either of you to do so. Just look them up in your old yearbook when you get home.

Oh my gosh. When people say hello to me and I don’t recognize them, I ask them to remind me.
It’s never hurt anyone. After all, I’m more interesting than they are. Naturally they would remember me. That doesn’t make me responsible for remembering them.
just kidding
My therapist told me last week that sometimes the most honest thing you can do is lie. I’m still thinking that over.

saying what people want to hear is for BS’ers, some clergy leaders and some (SOME) politicians. people want to hear sensational things, but actually saying what you “want” to say is better as long as you say it with wittiness and great thought. the truth is the truth. how you tell the truth gains respect and credibility. sometimes saying what you “want” to say can get you in trouble, so speak with wisdom and good timing. it makes all the difference.

All things being equal, honesty is the best policy.
However, depending on the situation, the risks, emotions, interests and consequences involved, you will often need to taylor your message with positioning and diplomacy. And sometimes you may need to pass a little white lie, stay silent or omit certain parts of the truth.
Example: your honest opinion may be that your best friend’s new shoes, that she’s so happy about, are dreadful, but since that particular opinion may not be helpful (after she spent a lot of money on them and they’re trendy), you could say they’re “interesting”, “different”, “not what you’d have expected” or even “you wear them really well”

I think its always best to say whats on your mind just use some tact when you say it as to not offend anyone.

I believe it’s best to be honest but temper it with diplomacy.

Ah have always relied on the kandness of strangers.

It depends on your goal. If you want to please your listener, you would say what you think they want to hear.

If you want to impress your listener, you would say what you think would impress them.

If you want them to hear your opinion on something and you don’t care how they take it, say what you want.