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"Fools rush in where angels fear to tread"...what does your brain tell you?

Asked by msh (4270points) October 11th, 2015 from iPhone

I was walking down a well-lit central area in a large city awhile ago. A friend was with me and we were walking back to the hotel instead of taking the subway, after dinner.
There were numbers of people out walking as it was a beautiful Spring evening. It was truly relaxing and wonderful to be without snow!
My friend and I had not seen each other since school, where we had slogged through required classes together, laughing the whole way. It was nice to meet up and compare life’s differing pathways we’ve taken. I still couldn’t believe that she had had three kids! I would not have predicted that!
We approached a street corner while on the main thoroughfare. There were two streets that submerged at a point about 40 sidewalk paving blocks away, to the left, as both joined to come to form this side street entrance onto the main thoroughfare, where we were on the curb, about to cross.
We were beginning to step down, when we heard some horrific noise coming from one of those converging streets. Someone was getting the hell beat out of them.
My friend and I were horrified to see a group of late-teens to beginning-twenties in a circle of about seven, not counting the guy they had ahold of. Two had the victim bent double, arms held behind his back, while the older, bigger kid was kicking him in the face- as in: swing his leg back then forward and up, smashing the toe of his shoe/boot in the restrained guy’s face!
I had never seen such cruelty before. If they had continued, I knew this young guy would be dead.
Here’s where the differences of my friend and I gave us two different reactions to this situation.
I was on the right, holding my handbag over my shoulder with my coat over my arm, same side. My friend, walking on the left, carrying the same, was saying something, as I looked past her, I saw all of this struggle taking place.
I was stunned, and turned to go towards the struggle down a little ways, all while I scream-yelled: HEY!!!
I shrugged off my bag and thrust it and my coat at my friend, as I started down the street, yelling something about ‘what the gosh-darn were they doing, and who in blue-blazes did they think they were….’ (Only using a whole lot more profanity than I put down here, I guess)
They all stopped at my first shrill scream that turned into a HEY!!!!! and turned around- except the guy who was so messed up that when the two stooges dropped him in surprise, he went straight to the ground and didn’t move. They all had shocked looks on their faces when they see a woman- all five foot and short inches, storming towards them yelling at the top of her lungs, like a banshee. The other dweebs took off (probably glad that someone else was getting picked on, instead of them) and the three left just stared at me with their mouths open.
My friend snapped out of her shock at what had happened to the pleasant conversation and whirled around to look at the whole scene- mouth open like she’d seen Santa Claus. She grabbed my flung coat and bag, and rushed after me. Two purses, two coats, and she still grabbed hold of my upper arm and swung me around, back towards the main street. I started trying to shrug her off to go back, and she loudly hissed at me: Leave it!!!
“But they’re gonna kill that guy!!!” as I tried to swing us back around- because she wouldn’t let go of my arm and it was close to getting wrenched outta socket.
She stopped long enough to foist my stuff back in my arms and then yanked me on across the street to continue on down the crowded sidewalk.
No one else on the busy walkway broke stride.

Who’s reaction was correct?

(Oh, this was an agreed ‘no phones’ dinner-rule that evening because we wanted to talk without all the interruptions our phones seemed to be doing all day.)

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6 Answers

DrasticDreamer's avatar

You definitely did the right thing and we can only hope that you scared them enough to think that one of you called the police. I hope the other person ended up being okay. The only thing I wish would have happened is that you guys did call the police and hung around nearby until the police showed up to make sure that he was alright. I do understand your friend’s fear, but too many people just leave someone to die, all thinking “someone else will do something about it”, which is precisely how many people have died.

Judi's avatar

If anything ever happens to
me I want YOU around the corner.
Something does happen once a person has kids. Us moms are fierce when it comes to protecting our own children but we also become more cautious because we have little ones depending on us.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

I would say your actions were more correct and valiant than hers. The reason why such brutality perpetuates is not enough people care to get involved enough to do anything. However, there is such a thing called the silence setting, so you need not be bothered by cell phone calls during dinner but still have it available in just such an incident.

Pandora's avatar

I think your friend was spot on when her survival skills kicked in. The three that remained would’ve probably had no problem beating you as well. Hopefully though they were worried about a witness and went away. It’s one thing to go away for assault, and another thing to go away for murder. I’m surprised they didn’t chase you.
Of course it’s the right thing to intervene and stop such a thing but I ask you this. If a child doesn’t protect his mother from an abusive dad, does it make him wrong or a coward? No. It doesn’t. He is small and they are adults. Well in this case, your friend was reminding you that you are physically small and they are many. Though I can understand your instinct to protect and that same instinct is something your friend had. Your friend wanted to protect you from yourself. There is no right or wrong in this. We can only do what is possible. I am also only 5 feet tall. And I have been known to let my temper at an injustice get the better of me, but I do always remember that physically, I can only do so much. If it was my kid, I would’ve ran straight in because I would’ve been blinded by rage. But truth be told, I’m not so sure I would do it for someone else, unless it was a small child. I know that would push be beyond any rational thinking as well.

LuckyGuy's avatar

You did a good thing. Unfortunately the perps got away without a 911 call. Next time, have your phone.

I, too, run toward the noise.
But I am equipped to protect myself.

ibstubro's avatar

You definitely did the right thing, and I would instinctively do the same.

However, I think the moral to this story is “No phones dinner means turning the phones off, not leaving them at home. 911 and video would have been a lot more effective at a lot greater distance (less risk to yourself). Truth told, you probably could have held your wallet up at that distance and yelled “I have video!” and dispersed the gang with little risk to you and your friend.

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