Friendship complication?

Your being replaced. I had that happen to me she kicked me out of her life at request of her boyfriend. Then she called the cops because I was crying and got a restraint order. It took 15 years to get over it.

ouch….ok my case isn’t as dramatic as yours :p

@divinepk3r ok… I needed to tell someone.

@talljasperman Sorry, i feel you :/ truly

If she’s totally into this guy, she’s probably got tunnel vision right now. It’s not right. We shouldn’t neglect our friendships when we get into a serious relationship, but many of us do. Have you considered whether it could be related to how her boyfriend views her friendship with you? Is he jealous of how close you are?

You can talk to her again and tell her you miss her and perhaps try to schedule get togethers. Don’t leave it to chance as you might have in the past, actually put things in your calendars so she has made a commitment to see you. That might help. Other than that, it’s a waiting game. When the gloss has worn off a bit, and the tunnel vision dissipated to some extent, I’m sure she’ll want you to still be there. If it’s a jealousy thing from her boyfriend, perhaps you need to connect to him to show you’re no threat.

I am going out on a limb and assume you are on the young side. Whether your friend is a girl or a guy, when they find an S/O to saddle up, guaranteed you will see less of them. Especially if she is dating a guy who is jealous of your friendship with her and puts pressure on her to back off from your friendship with her. Try to be gracious and supportive if and when you get to have contact with her…be the man and friend she expects from you.

@Cruiser yeah well 17… tell me life gets easier as we grow up :P

@divinepk3r You learn not to care. It comes off of as confidence.

@divinepk3r Bear in mind being grown up is a whole lot easier when you don’t obsess over who your friends are dating and why they are not calling you as often as you would like.

Try to find a bf/ gf for yourself? Find something you enjoy? Meet more new people?

Infatuation is powerful and all-consuming. Two of your friends are in a new relationship, and they’re spending every available moment together. They can’t see past each other.

This phase won’t last forever. The mad infatuation has to recede; it can’t sustain itself. Maybe your friends will settle into a calm, happy twosome with room for other people and interests. More likely for teenagers, they’ll find that they have no reason to stay together and break up.

So, what should you do now? Don’t pine for your friends or, much worse, beg them to pay more attention to you. Desperation is very unappealing. Instead, meet some new people; read good books and watch good movies; pursue an interesting subject, hobby, or sport; work out and exercise regularly. Self-confidence is a wonderful thing.

I was friends with my BF before he was my actual BF. I was working LOL alot and he would call me at least 2xs a week. I was not the type to call back…so I let the calls go like any other female. I now talk to him more in the 5 years we have been together. We do not see each other alot but…life does get crazy. I would not read into that much. Enjoy yourself, friends, family. You have so much more to cover in this life before you have a GF. God if I were single again.
ROFL.

Best of luck to you

Back off! WAY off! Like the other side of the country, so to speak. Quit seeing her/him/them. Distance yourself completely! In time she may look you up. Or not. Deal with it!

I agree with @kritiper , but I would add to that. Make yourself happy. Don’t back off from them and then sulk. Have fun. Make some new friends. That I am a mom prompts me to say, “stay out of trouble”, but do get out and find stuff to do.
Pretty soon they will be bored with each other. There you will be, not boring. The one who cares about you most will want to resume friendship with you. From there it is up to you if you miss either of them enough to reconcile.

Since shes dating a “friend” of yours too..how is that friendship with him doing?
Take the space too involve yourself into activities that interest you or that you had always wanted to do.
I bet that as soon as she or he gets into trouble that either one ‘will” contact you. Only thing is ‘will you” be still interested? Funny how the only time they call is when there is no one else around or when they are in trouble.
friendship is a two way street of give and take on both sides…if it is one sided…leave it and find someone who is more equal in friendships and whom cherishes your friendship better.

When you find a girlfriend of your own, you’ll probably understand what’s happening with your bestie. Give her some time to enjoy the feelings she’s going through. She’ll come back. As others have said, go and do things with other people or try to new hobbies activities and make some new friends. The reality is, you’re both going to become less tied to each other as you get older and new people and activities (including college/jobs) take your time. Broaden your horizons. If you try to tie her down, you may lose her.