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Should I call him?

Asked by travelbabe24 (262points) October 27th, 2015 from iPhone

So I recently asked a question on here about my social anxiety. But now I need more advice.

So as you might know, I’ve been seeing this guy. Things have been going great! About a week ago he invited me to go to a party his friend was hosting. I got along with everyone. I was laughing and throwing in comments here and there. But I was rather quiet and awkward at times due to my social anxiety.

Well he dropped me off at home and went back to the party, but he told me he’d call me to hang out over the weekend. Well he hasn’t called in a week. I don’t know how to take that.

I’ve been keeping myself busy with school, my friends and family, I’ve been studying new subjects on my free time. But I can’t help but wonder why he hasn’t called. Maybe I was a little too socially awkward around his friends?

Should I try calling him? Should I just take that as him rejecting me and move on? Please help!

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Seek's avatar

Call him if you want to, but based on your description of how he treated you during that date, being totally honest, I don’t know if I would in your position.

This is your fourth question about this dude. At first, you were anxious about meeting him for coffee. Then he went straight from coffee to “netflix and chill” and you were freaked out about that. Then he took you to a party and dropped you off back home in a huff when you weren’t the party animal.

I get the strong feeling that you two are just not well-matched.

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chyna's avatar

^Ditto.

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talljasperman's avatar

Focus on your goals and not on him. Being buzy getting ahead might attract him.

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janbb's avatar

If it were me, I would call him. But then I haven’t been too lucky in love either lately.

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ZEPHYRA's avatar

NO! Be sure that he will call at some point. Do not appear eager and drop everthing you are doing to join him. Keep your distance a bit. Be friendly and polite but on the cold side. Let him unravel himself. Keep busy and do not talk about him with other girls/guys as your need to see him will reach his ears and boost his ego. Waste no precious time pining over him.

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AshlynM's avatar

I can relate. You’re left wondering if it was something you did to offend him. It may be tough but don’t call him. If he really likes you he’ll find a way to be with you.

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