NSFW: Would you back off if you had performance issues?

He’s 19, from Germany and very good looking, I’m 25. Met through a mutual friend, He’s travelling and will only be in my city for a few more weeks so I thought we both knew what this would be.

However, from the beginning he was quite clingy, getting a bit upset when I had to leave, very affectionate, wanting to see me a lot, messaging everyday, saying things like it’s going to be hard to say goodbye to you today and that I’m not just a random girl to him. I took this with a grain of salt given our situation. It took until the fourth time we met up for us to kiss, and I was wondering why he wanted to take it so slow given our short time frame.

Anyway, after about 6 dates we spent the night together as the opportunity arose and given that he will only be here for a matter of weeks and our time is limited, my view on it is that we both enjoy each other as much as we can during the short time. Needless to say, enjoy is sadly what I didn’t.

He wasn’t packing much, couldn’t keep it up, then when I helped him to do so he took forever to finish. I felt like perhaps it was me and I felt insecure though I didn’t express this and instead asked what he would like me to do but he said that I was very good at what I was doing. From past experience, people have told me I’ve been some of/the best they’ve had so I doubt this wouldn’t have been a lie.

After he finished he said we should go to sleep and I didn’t want to push it so we did. He grabbed me and proceeded to cuddle with me the entire night. I got a text from him the next day seeing how my day was going and we continued to chat for a day or so but he didn’t bring up catching up again where before it was like he was dying to see me. Since I previously hadn’t initiated anything, I suggested catching up and he said yes to do so the next night. I invited him over and again disappointment. He spent most of the time talking about politics.

When sex didn’t happen that night (we were both quite tired and I fell asleep) I thought perhaps it might in the morning but nope, nothing apart from some touching he never made any moves to escalate. Kissing me on the head and affection were abundant though, if he would turnaround in his sleep away from me, he would grab my arm to keep cuddling, so intimacy in this respect was desirable to him.

In the morning, I took a shower and half intentionally walked into the room in just my bra and pj shorts. I could see him checking me out but when I went and straddled him and kissed him, he kissed me back but again apart from touching…no moves.

In the car when I drove him back to his place I asked him generally what he thought about the first night and he was reluctant to talk about it and quite short. This made me act aloof as I felt something was off. Since then, we don’t have another plan to see each other. I texted him the day after saying thanks for coming over and he responded asking how my Sunday went.

So guys, what are your thoughts on this? My friends are saying he would have been embarrassed for not performing and he is scared of me rejecting him over it made worse by the fact I seem experienced and I am older. If that’s the case, I’m not sure what there is for me to do. Like I said, I know the reality of the situation thats for sure but I do want to continue enjoying his company for as long as possible. Would you back off if you had performance issues?