@Dutchess_III They just didn’t do it—not on the level of general chaos I saw in this public school. Most kids started Catholic school from first grade on, and we knew no other kind of behaviour. If we got a kid from a public school, it was never mentioned by the teacher in their introduction to the class and I don’t remember any difference in their behaviour. We were insulated from the public school system. We had our own sports and academic leagues, etc. There was never any discussion about public schools by the nuns, no criticism. They just weren’t mentioned.
Sometimes there was an individual who became disruptive. I remember a kid in 6th grade named Dudley who sat in the back of the class drawing WWII airplanes and making machine gun and bombing sounds. He was brought up in front of the class and given a few whacks of the pointer on the palm (NOT THE BACK) of his hand by our nun. I got it a few times for talking out of turn or passing notes. When he was caught again, his desk was moved to a corner near the teacher’s desk where he was given extra work researching and writing essays on WWII and was allowed to illustrate them. It was deemed pretty good work by our teacher and he was asked to read the essays and present his art for class approbation. He became a very good student after that and later went on to college to become an engineer.
The worst punishment was leaning against the wall on your little fingers in front of the class for three minutes. Girls never got corporal punishments. The usual punishment for girls was to be made to stand silently by their desks until the next subject was discussed. We didn’t change classrooms for different subjects until 9th grade.The sexes were segregated into different classrooms at seventh grade. Then there was detention after school in the library for the real miscreants. A couple of boys were suspended from school for 3 days for being caught drinking the sacrificial wine after alter boy practice. They were eighth graders. If there was something personal, or a misdemeanor too serious to reveal to the class, the student was quietly sent to Mother Superior’s office.
Parents had an almost blind trust in our nun’s devotion to their children’s best interests. The commonality was Catholicism and a reliance upon the reputation of academic excellence of
Catholic schools. We had some Jewish students and at least one Muslim girl.
I was totally ignoring my classwork in math when we approached Algebra. It was so bad that Mother Superior had a conference with my parents and it was decided I would spend my Saturdays at the convent alone in the Solarium studying math. A nun would come in once in a while to check on my progress and serve me lunch and tea. It was a beautiful neo- romanesque-art nouveau mansion built in the 1920’s given to the Church by the multi-millionaire who invented the tractor tread mechanisms used on Army tanks and whose father had built the Brooklyn Bridge.
There were two armored knights on guarding each side of the marble arched alcove just inside the huge front door.The solarium had huge floor-to-ceiling windows and was decorated like Versailles Hall of Mirrors. The windows overlooked dual marble steps leading from each end of a huge blach and white checkered marble terrace to a coral swimming pool (that the nuns never used) and out over an ice-blue bay and green out-islands.
The house was quiet, smelled slightly of frankincense and myhrr, and I sat at a long, polished mahogany table under a chandelier. It was amazing. I spent my first hour inspecting the room and all the objets d’art, then at the table with my books open, daydreaming and staring out over the bay. My nun-teacher came in with some scones and tea, saw I hadn’t done any work and gave me a gentle lecture on my future and the duty smart, privileged children have to grow up and be generous citizens of the world, and if that didn’t work, I would be banned from sports until my math grades went up.
I got the work done and learned my Algebra. It took six weekends. It was a very good thing and I saw a little bit of how these amazing, devoted women lived. It was a real education on many levels. I exchanged letters with two of my nuns for years after I left school, until each of them retired back to Ireland and passed away.