Is this moving too fast?
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November 23rd, 2015
My best friend introduced me to her cousin since he was moving to the bay for work. Since I live in the bay and he don’t know anybody, she thinks it will be good for us to become friends. We were texting to plan a day for us to meet and I thought it would be awkward hanging out with him. This is not the first time I met him, I just never talked to him. When we were hanging out, we notice we have a lot of things in common and was talking non stop about our lives . We talk for about 10 hours. At first we wanted to be friends, but toward the end of the day we end with a kiss and cuddling by the river. We don’t really text because I don’t like it and he won’t text me unless he’s planning our next date. So our plan was to see each other once a week since we work.
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Cuddling and kissing, little texting distractions and dating once a week seems like you are moving at a prudent slow enough pace I would not even consider putting in the fast pace category.
Nope, not too fast. Once a week is good until you have a better understanding where it might be going.
Talking for about ten hours the first time you really talk to him is a good sign.
You’re fine. But moving slow is always good in a relationship.. no matter what we’re talking about. It’s not a race.
Man, what I wouldn’t give for ten hours of friendly, intimate conversation, plus cuddling and kissing. I’m not kidding; that sounds pretty near perfect to me for starters. Hey, I like sex a lot, but the basis of “a relationship” has to be there first. I’m old-fashioned that way. Talking, making out and kissing are great ways to start a good relationship these days. We’re not Victorians any more, after all. Unless you or he have cultural issues that you haven’t mentioned, that doesn’t sound too fast at all.
But it’s for you to decide, anyway. Not us and not him. (Unless it’s too fast for him, and let him admit that safely if it is. It’s uncommon for a man to say “too fast”, so allow that he might be that rara avis.)
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