Does anyone include their unborn kids in holiday rituals?

I can’t remember if we did or not? We would certainly have bought some presents for our baby on the way. I think I would have put and ‘bean’ or whatever on the Christmas cards too. I think the idea of a Christmas tree ornament is lovely. Everyone in my immediate family has a Christmas tree ornament with their name on it. Even our pets. And each year we hang them. It’s a nice reminder of the pets we’ve loved who aren’t with us now.

I think I’d be reluctant to do too much because it would feel a little like tempting fate. Which is sort of silly, but there would be a part of me that would be concerned about that.

My oldest boy was a powerful kicker. I stitched some of those little crafting bells to a couple of my tops, so when he kicked it would be festive; okay, funny. We always made sure baby had some Christmas music to listen to. One of my kids is an autumn arrival, so there wasn’t any unborn Christmas with that one. I didn’t know I was expecting until after Christmas.
Something my husband and I did not think of way back then is starting a college fund. You could start it at Christmas, pay in each month, and each Christmas pay double or triple your monthly amount.

We announced my pregnancy at the family Christmas get together, and I think the people at the grocery store gave me a flower on Mother’s Day. That’s pretty much it.

We did not. If you have other little kids, I can see maybe hanging a stocking for the fetus.

I see people putting symbols of the fetus in photos all the time. I don’t get Christmas cards, but I would guess that might be a thing.

What’s an unborn kid? It seems like that expression is an insidious effort to use the language of the anti-choice crowd in posing the question.

Perhaps the question might be better asked “Do you celebrate or commemorate the impending birth at Christmas?”

At what point in the pregnancy would you do this? 4 months? 7 months?

I got both of mine something small for Christmas and gave it to my wife. It was just something to acknowledge I was thinking about them, to her, and excited. One got a onesie, the other a little blanket. They were just small things, that were somehow significant to us.

Before we had our first, we lost several pregnancies. One progressed to the point that he had a name, so he gets an ornament on the tree every year as well. Not a sad thing, just an acknowledgement of family.

@elbanditoroso – “unborn child” is a fairly common way to refer to any sort of future children as well. I don’t think it’s offensive, or intended that way.

I wouldn’t be able to give individual names to all of the millions of sperm cells I have spent, and I don’t classify them as children. So, no, I don’t.

@funkdaddy,

I’m decidedly pro-choice but don’t want to sound cold/clinical when talking about pregnancies that people are celebrating. I personally consider fetuses to be fetuses rather than “unborn children” but I understand that people are emotionally attached to wanted pregnancies.

Anyway, that’s the first time I’ve ever been accused of being anti-choice!