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Would you date someone of a different religion than yours?

Asked by CunningFox (1397points) December 4th, 2015

And/or have you already?

Are differing religious views something you can look past in a relationship? Or would it become an issue eventually?

Feel free to put it all out there. I’ve been thinking about this topic a bit recently and I want to see what everyone else thinks.

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Apparently_Im_The_Grumpy_One's avatar

Depends on how radically different they are. The base beliefs would have to be there or it’s a no go.

2 Corinthians 6:14

jaytkay's avatar

Date, yes, but I can’t spend too much time with someone wrapped up in the supernatural and superstition.

Mimishu1995's avatar

Sure, as long as they don’t try to convert me.

ragingloli's avatar

i would not marry anyone with a religion.

jca's avatar

I have and I would.

dappled_leaves's avatar

I don’t care if the person has a nominative religion of any kind, but I could not date someone who actually believed in a deity or “higher power,” as they say.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

Married one. She’s christian, I’m agnostic no big deal. She did not try to make me accept it and I never try to explain religion away from her….unless she asks me to try.

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

Depends on the religion, and how deeply it is held.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Date, yeah, been there, done that. Putting a ring on it, maybe not, I would have to do some deep prayer to see if I would be more incline to bring them to the light, or it would just be a mess as they would be so set in their iniquity daily life would be fulfilling.

ucme's avatar

Makes no difference, they all yell OMG during sex with me anyway :D

Seek's avatar

It depends. I have little beef with most followers of the neo-pagan faiths, as long as they’re otherwise logical. I could not date a follower of the Abrahamic faiths again.

My husband and I met when we were both devoutly religious. We de-converted at different times, and it was a major strain on our relationship for a long time.

elbanditoroso's avatar

I’ll answer this way – I have my name (not my fluther name) up on a computer matching site.

If a potential match’s profile answers the “What are the 6 most important things in your life” question with the response:

“jesus” or “god” or “prayer”

then they don’t get a response from me.

ibstubro's avatar

I probably would not date a deeply religious person, of any faith.

I prefer people that are grounded in the here and now. That believe they can make the difference, and not by praying to some ‘higher being’.

filmfann's avatar

I am a Christian (a Baptist). When I was dating, I went out with several Catholics, a Wiccan, a Mormon, and a couple atheists.

JLeslie's avatar

Of the 6 or 7 men I dated in my life only one was my religion. He wound up being an ass.

My husband was raised Catholic, but his dad was raised Jewish. I’m Jewish. My husband did convert before we got married, but I never expected him to do such a thing. He wanted us to be the same, and neither of us are very religious.

I do think it’s easier if the two people are the same religion, but I think more importantly is the religiousity (I think that’s a made up word) of the people. If one wants to go to church every Sunday and raise their kids with lots of God and religious education, and the other is an atheist and thinks religion is all made up and a waste of time, that’s not going to work well. Or, if the husband is Jewish and won’t go to Christmas with the Inlaws, that’s not going to work well either.

Respect for each other’s beliefs is very important.

You really need to think about how you want your kids raised if you plan on having kids, and also realize many people grow and change when it comes to religion. Also, I think you have to be ok if your child goes the direction of the other parent even if you raise them in the other religion. Meaning if my Jewish kid decided he felt more comfortable with Catholicism I was ok with it. I’m not ok with some other religions and so I wouldn’t marry into them so fast. I still cannot ultimately control my adult children of course, but I can control some of the influences on them when they are little.

jca's avatar

My mom was baptised Catholic but her parents stopped going to Catholic church and started going to Protestant church. However, nobody in my family was extremely religious or church going. When my grandmother did go to church, I think it was more as a social thing, as in the 1950’s and 60’s, the neighborhood church had a lot of committees and social events like teas and luncheons.

My mom got remarried to a Catholic. When they had a baby (my sister) my stepfather said he wanted her raised Catholic. My mom said she’s not going to Catholic church, and if he wanted to go to Catholic church she wasn’t going. He went to Protestant church with her and he liked it. My sister was baptised Protestant. Now on the rare occasions when we do go to church (which is usually only Christmas eve), we all go to Protestant.

dappled_leaves's avatar

Now, now, @jca. You know the phrase “Protestant church” is meaningless – it requires a specific denomination before anyone can go “Ahhh, now I know what experience she had.” ;)

Judi's avatar

My oldest daughter’s father was a different religion than me. It was a disaster. I think that the answer to this question is dependent on how passionate the parties are about their faith.
For us, the differences were irreconcilable because both of us were very passionate and saw the other as “wrong.” I’m not as fundamentalist as I was back then (35 years ago) but I still feel like in a relationship I would want to be able to share the core of who I am, and for me that’s tied up in my faith. For someone who is not as faith centric as I am it might be a whole different story and make no difference at all.

Stinley's avatar

I’ve had boyfriends who have had different religious upbringings to me but they have all been non religious like me. I’m not interested in being with someone religious because it is just so different to what I think that we would just not be compatible

jca's avatar

@dappled_leaves: Presbyterian.

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

I think it really depends on how serious they are about their religion. My wife is not, does not go to church and has never asked me to.

jca's avatar

My family is about as unreligious as you can get while still being religious.

Coloma's avatar

Non-practicing believers maybe, if they could respect my non-believing stance, but being a non-believer from a very diverse religious background, I would not want to be involved with someone that was actively practicing their religion or expected me to convert. Spiritual yes, as in we are all part of the infinite cosmos, hardcore fundamentalist, hell no. haha

CWOTUS's avatar

Sure. I’ve dated Christian women, a Buddhist woman and a Hindu. And they are all committed to their faith. I’ve dated others without asking or even assuming what their religion is, and few people know mine before we date. It ain’ no thang.

kritiper's avatar

I never thought about a woman’s religion when I was trying to hook up with her. Wouldn’t have mattered, really. It’s LOVE, baby!

kritiper's avatar

Budda bing, budda BANG!

DrasticDreamer's avatar

Honestly? Probably not. I’m not religious (agnostic) and I think there would probably be too many conversations that we couldn’t have. Discussions wouldn’t be fulfilling for me and that’s not something I could handle.

msh's avatar

Dated some of other faiths, other beliefs, no beliefs, etc.
I now know that the way some view life’s set-up, is the way they treat others.
Religion and politics- differences can be…a pain in the arse.
Unless other areas of the relationship are freaking mind-exploding?
Nope. I don’t like the drool from rabid anythings.

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