How do I interpret what these boys are doing? What does it mean? How do I react?
Boy#1 and I have been friends for over a year now. We’ve had on and off crushes on each other. 3 months ago we started flirting A LOT and he told me he liked me, but he also liked another girl. Boy#1 locker is next to mine and we were leaving for early dismissal. He gave me a genuine hug, but before I could walk away he pulled me back in and kissed me. A few days after he stopped talking to me completely. He closed himself off not only to me, but his friends as well (he ignores me and he stopped talking to his friends as much) Its been about 2 weeks since this happened. What should I do? Did the kiss mean something?
Boy#2 I went skating with my friends 2 days ago and this boy was hanging out with me. By the end of the night we left with each others number. Since then we’ve been texting nonstop and getting to know each other. We’re going skating again tomorrow and he wanted to know if he could kiss me while we were there (he asked through text) I replied ‘we just met two days ago’ after that he’s been acting weird and distant. I want to kiss him that comment was supposed to be a joke and I tried telling him, but he kept acting strange. Was it something I said?
I’m so confused. I like both boys, but I’m not sure if they feel the same way. I’m getting mixed signals and I need to figure this out.
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Boy 1 looks like he gets into some personal problem and is trying to cope with it. He doesn’t want his friends to know and prefers to sort things out alone. I think you should give him some time and see what will happen.
Boy 2 doesn’t sound so genuine to me. Maybe he wants something else from you other than friendship, and he misinterprets your joke as a way you refused to please him. Or he could be in the same situation as boy 1.
@Mimishu1995 is right and I agree with her 100%+
Reread her post outloud.
Be careful when out skating with Boy 2.
Perhaps some friends could join you?
Boy #1 is confused. Write him off. Perhaps someday he will come out of it, but you can’t count on that.
Boy #2 only wants sex.
I am worried about boy number one. Could he be suicidal? The impulsive kiss seems like a desperate reach for love, acceptance, something to kill his pain. He could be feeling awfully guilty about kissing you, especially if his reasons were to comfort himself.
I think you should avoid the subject of the kiss. It could make him more upset. Instead, try to find harmless conversation you can have with him. If you get the impression he is depressed, you should get him some help. Make sure he knows you are on his side.
Could he be having some sexual identity issues? Maybe the kiss was his hope to resolve something for himself.
I agree that #2 is being an operator. It may not be dangerous, but it could be. It could also be a scared boy who got up some nerve to put himself out there, and your joke made him draw back inward. Stay safe, but give the boy a chance to show his true colors.
Tell him you were nervous about the subject of kissing, and that was why you made a joke.
I completely agree with @Mimishu1995
Boy 1 seems to just be having some personal issues, maybe try texting him or something, and just try some small talk. I would avoid the subject of love with him at the moment, and just try to make him feel more comfortable woth you. Although I honestly have no love life, and am not completely sure how to deal with these things.
Boy 2 seems like a guy who is more interested in sex, rather than being a true love. I might have him as a friend, but i
I wouldnt want him as a boyfriend.
Hope this helps a bit…
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