In your own mind, what is your age?

I am 60 also, and see myself most times as in my early 30s too, until I am around people in their thirties, when I feel I am in my 40s. A lot of it has to do with being in good shape for my age, and also my kids are still at home until next fall, when they go off to college.

The hardest part of turning 60 was realizing that there is a huge wall in online dating between 59 and 60. A woman in her 40s will be open to dating a man in his fifties, but not a man in his 60s.

@zenvelo Try being a woman in her 60s looking for a fit guy!

I guess I feel like I’m about 40; fully formed as an adult (although I wasn’t then), not raising babies any more but not decrepit.

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@janbb I am not going to tell you what I thought you wrote, in this tiny script, when you said you were looking for a “fit” guy!

I feel about 24 in my mind. My body is very aware that it’s over 40 though. But when I dream or imagine myself doing anything, I’m always in my early to mid twenties.

I wonder why our brain picks an age and sticks to it. My grandfather told me once that he always imagined himself at 22. Some mornings he’d wake up and get startled when he looked in the mirror and there was an old man looking back at him. Even when his health started to decline, he said his mind still felt young.

I thought he was just being poetic, but it was real for him. Once he got really sick and was in the hospital for several weeks. He was in the geriatric section (ward?) . When he was conscious but still delirious, he would constantly ask why there were so many old people around him. He’d ask several times why he got put in the ward with all the old people. When my grandmother and nurses tried to tell him that he WAS one of the old people, he looked genuinely shocked as if he suddenly aged 60 years overnight.

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@keobooks My mom did the same thing, ask why she was with all these old people. But she had dementia. It just blew her mind to look in the mirror. In one place she lived Rick ripped the mirror off of the bathroom wall, and another in the main part of the apartment.
I put up a picture of her when she was 45 or so, with my daughter when she was about 1 (she was 25 then.) Mom accepted that.

My grandfather was lucid and had no dementia. He had minor brain damage after one stay at the hospital where they didn’t put him on oxygen after surgery soon enough. But that only caused him to speak slowly and made him slightly clumsy. When he got confused, it was usually due to pain medication side effects. I know from personal experience that pain meds can mess with your mind even at the correct dosage levels.

He didn’t lose awareness until the last 48 hours or so. Before that, he was always fairly sharp.

39——>25

I can’t put a number on it, but I often feel young and clueless… That is, until I talk to a teenager. Then I’m all, “woo, look at me, adulting like a boss.”

Teenagers and their certainty just blows my mind @Seek! It can be SO annoying. But I guess I was the same way.

I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling 22 : )

I’m 52, and I’m content with it. I understand the phenomenon of feeling younger, but for some reason, I don’t feel it these days. I like my maturity.

Over 40, look younger but feel about 87!

Inside me? I feel much younger than my years, but no special number comes to mind.

I’m 65 and the age that I feel like varies greatly with different activities. Just siting here I feel like I’m 17. Petting my cat I feel like I’m 5. Performing my husbandly duties I feel like I’m 30. Doing physical activities (work or sports) or looking into the mirror I feel my age and then some. HA!

I see things and think I still have the drive as if I’m in my mid-twenties.
Have the sense of fun and humor of my thirties.
The knowledge and strength of my forties. Mix in more ‘walk on the wild side’ fun here also.
And I’m still working on the adaptability and calm of the fifties.
I said working on…. Not goal accomplished- but the timer is still ticking with some time left!
After a day of hard work physically- 106.
After the Alleve and Mineral Ice rub- back down to a healthy 86, perhaps 74.
After a day of hard mental noggin’ work -28.
Playing and deviling my pets -12.
Thinking of friends, family, and experiences – ageless. And happy as a lark.
Watching Star Wars- who I will be the next time around!

Often 11, sometimes 41 and occasionally 61.

Chronologically I am 56. ( Just turned on Dec. 26th. )

Emotionally I am wise beyond my years, I’d say about 900 haha, a philosopher at heart, very stable, not moody, never take my bad moods out on others, takes a lot to trip my trigger.

Mentally I am somewhere between 4 and 24, depending on the day, still retain a childlike curiosity, humorous, love to learn, the more obscure the better and I still enjoy Strawberry milk on occasion. haha

Physically I alternate between feeling younger and older. Today is an older day, I’d say I feel about 75 today. lol
Slept wrong and have a bad crick in my neck, a sinus headache and puffy eyes and still nursing a badly sprained ankle from a month ago. Most days I think I feel my age quite accurately, as it is.

I have led a very active life and am now suffering the consequences of old injuries coming back to haunt me and a couple new wierdnesses that have shown up in the last year or so.

I am in my early fifties but feel like about a 107.

I’m turning 48 in a few days, and I really don’t want to let go of 47. I feel 47.

Sometimes I have a feeling that I’m at least 30. I see people my age doing their things and I am like: “Ugh! That’s so childish.” And they see my things and they are like: “How can you like something so outdate?” I also realize that I prefer interaction with older people and hold a certain level of cynicism. Well, guess my mind just grow too fast.

But then again I’m an oddball.

I’m immortal but o feel 38 and 12.

I’m in my early 50s, but I feel in my early 30s. Sometimes I feel like a 5 or 6 year old child. I certainly don’t feel my age.

I’m 54 and I guess I feel about 48. On the cusp of 50, but not there yet. May never get there.

I’m in my late 40’s and I am very aware that when I was little, people that were my age now were OLD! Also, when I was little, people that were my age now looked old! Archie Bunker, when you google it, was in his late 40’s when he started “All in the Family.” Look at him – he looks like an old man. He’d be 65 today with that look. When I was a kid, grandmas had short gray hair and wore housedresses. Now my friends are grandmas and they look damn good.

@jca I agree with almost everything you said, except that once in a while I still meet women barely 50 who look 65 with the short gray hair you describe. It ages them tremendously, because I think most women dye their hair under 65. How they dress also adds to it. It seems like some areas of the country the women start dressing, doing their hair, and getting the body type of an older person at a younger age. I think having all three is what really cinches it. Just one and you can figure out the age might be difficult to figure out. I see that older person look more in the middle of the country. Not that the majority of the women look that way, I just see it more there.

I’m 46 and at the moment feel about 70. I’ve got so many minor health complaints that are just old age. It’s making me feel old. Usually I feel about mid 30s. I had my children then and that reset it. Before that it was early 20s.

@jca and @JLeslie. I agree that people look a lot younger for their age these days compared to old photos.

@Stinley The women in my family didn’t look old like that, but to @jca‘s point, when I was 20, 50 seemed quite old no matter what. Then I moved to Florida after college and my entire perspective on age changed.

@JLeslie. I was going to say that people seemed really old at 40 when I was younger but realise I might not have an objective point of view!
But I do remember a few years ago visiting Eastbourne here in England which is on the south coast and has a more sunny and mild climate than the rest of the U.K and certainly more than Scotland. The town has a large population of retirees who looked incredibly sprightly. The weather helps, don’t you think?

@Stinley Absolutely. Weather and I think big city vs. smaller towns. There are some exceptions though. It’s difficult to completely generalize it. In our very cold state of Colorado I think people look young. Colorado is usually in the top 10 for thin states. What’s nice about Colorado is it is very sunny. 300 days a year of sunshine. Maybe that is the key. I think even in the cold, people are more likely to get out, if it’s not dingy grey outside.

Maybe income affects it too? I’m not sure. My dad certainly dresses more like a poor person from rural Arkansas shopping in Kmart than who he actually is, an upper middle class, PhD level, but very overweight guy.

Then there is my aunt who lives in NYC, the climate is pretty cold there, but even though she is poor and disabled she looks younger than her actual age I think. She dresses in very basic clothing, solid colors, and she still has a good figure. She would look better if she gained 5 more pounds. Just yesterday I was sitting next to a woman on my flight who is 3 years younger than my aunt and this women looked her age, 65. Short grey hair. Her sweater was multicolored and had almost pastel colors. She was probably 50 pounds overweight and held the weight a lot in her stomach; she looked like a box. Very nice woman though, we talked for two hours.

@Stinley Does Eastbourne have more immigrants from other parts of Europe, Eastern and Southern Europe, and even outside of Europe?

Less than most areas – 93% white British compared to 83% in England as a whole. The retirees are well to do. It’s an expensive area and a lot of people move there to retire.

@Stinley Money usually lends itself to thinner, younger looking, and prettier, than average. In America it does anyway. Especially, the women. Money usually means better health too (on average) so back to the Q they probably feel younger too.

I had asked about the nationality only because are warmer, vacation areas tend to have a very mixed population, but not always. The middle of the country, which I mentioned far above as being more likely to have older looking population at a “young” age, have a lot of Irish, Polish, Scottish, and German descent. But, really I think it’s more about exactly where they live and their immediate community, or group they spend time with.

I remember when I was about 10, my mom was in her mid-30’s then (she had me when she was 24) and my great-Aunt, who was very old fashioned and proper, told me that my mom should cut her hair short and have it curly, because women over 30 should have their hair short. I guess that was the thinking back then, and that explains why women looked that way when I was little. I saw Jaws recently, and I googled the actress who played Roy Scheider’s wife. She was not that old, and she was younger then Roy Scheider, but she looked older because she had the short curly hair. Now many women have long straight hair, which is the trend, and in my opinion (just my opinion) if women have long hair that’s well maintained (not straggly, but nicely trimmed and maybe colored) and they wear makeup, they tend to look younger then if they don’t. Just my opinion.

When I go to New England, it seems a lot of the older women have short hair, uncolored, no makeup, and they may not be heavy but they tend to look older then women around where I live and work (NY Metro)(again, just my opinion).

Aren’t looking and feeling two different things?

@janbb: If you are talking to me, then yes, absolutely.

It’s weird, but I forget about my age the great bulk of the time. I get abrupt annoying reminders if I stand up quickly and move around at speed. There are peculiar creaks and this sensation that moving parts are lagging behind their orders. Those things dissipate quickly enough, but they’re still a surprise. More irritating is the fact that I consistently forget to take advantage of senior discounts which are apparently everywhere. It was around 4 years ago when purchasing movie tickets that the woman in the booth said “senior, right?” that it hit me that I’d been qualified but missing out for years. Last month I bought cold cuts for sandwiches from the fabulous deli in a snooty upscale supermarket where I’ve been doing this for years. When I paid for the stuff at the checkstand, I was paying attention as the total on the display dropped better than 2 bucks. The checker, probably noticing the screwed up expression on my face, said “it’s the senior discount”. To which I replied “please tell me this is a recent innovation”. She smiled and said “oh no. The policy was in place when I started 8 years ago”. My reply to that was not the well deserved “thank you very much” which she clearly deserved. No, she got an exasperated “son of a bitch!” for my enlightenment.

Inside I feel 30, but if I was 30, I’m pretty sure the top of the arch of my right foot wouldn’t be swollen and hurting like hell right now, for apparently no reason. I moved some very heavy pieces of furniture by myself yesterday, one in particular which is a long solid oak filing cabinet. Full of files and other shit. I think I may have some sort of stress fracture in my arch because of it, from shoving about 300 pounds, and pushing off against my foot to do it.
It’s the same foot I damn near broke when I threw a round house at something in Ta Kwon Do about a million years ago, when I was too macho to use a foot pad. Boy, that hurt. I used a foot pad after that.
It reminds me of what someone said above about every old injury coming back to haunt you.

Yep it’s my 1976 motorcycle accident ankle that is slow in picking up the spirit of teamwork!

@Dutchess_III That was me. haha
I have a pinned shoulder that resulted from a serious horse wreck in my 20’s, hit the turf, dislocated my left shoulder severely, fractured my left elbow, several ribs, and my bad left ankle that is prone to going out at random, have sprained it severely twice now in 8 weeks. I have to wear a damn neoprene brace every day, is the result of other sprains for various reasons over the years and a lot of roller skating & water skiing way back when. The entire left side of my body is going to hell. haha

@jca The thing is, for me to have long hair with reasonable thickness so it doesn’t look straggly, I need extensions. I have them right now, and I purposely put in about 25% fewer than what my hair stylist wants me too, because it feels so unnatural to me to have thick, long, flowing hair. When women who are older go overboard with Hollywood long, perfectly styled hair, it looks too artificial to me.

That curly set you speak of is just that I think. Lots of women would go to get their hair set every week. Women still do it. My grandmother never did that, she kept an extremely short cut, and it was fun and stylish in my opinion. I’ll be changing my cover photo to my grandma and me shortly, so you will see what I mean. My mom wears a shortish hairstyle wig (has forever, the style is a little outdated, too puffy) or pulls her hair back in a quick bun. My family goes grey late naturally, so that helps them look young longer I guess.

@JLeslie the middle aged hair dilemma, haha.

I wear my hair a little below shoulder length this last year or so after having longer hair forever. My hair is very healthy, no thinning and….I also quit coloring it a year ago next month in Feb. I have always been a natural blonde and used some highlights on occasion and then a temporary semi-permanent, 24 shampoo rinse to give my natural color a boost. I am quite surprised now after 13 months of letting it grow out, that I have barely, discernible gray, a few strands at at my temples and a couple here and there but they blend with my medium blonde natural color well.

I am going to see how it turns out this summer, being in the sun more and may just leave it natural forever again.

@Coloma I still have very few greys also. Both my parents greyed kind of late. Standing with normal personal space between me and other people, I think no one notices my grey when I let it grows out several months. If you’re right next to me, or looking for it, you can see it. If I dye my hair very close to my color I can go a long time without a touch up. But, the greys are increasing slowly but surely.

@JLeslie Yes, I think the trick is to stay within one shade or so of your natural color for the best blending. Same here, you could see them if you were really looking at close proximity but otherwise no.

What is one shade or so of white?

grey

What is two shades off of white?

Eggcrude??^^^^

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253,253,253

You callin me a 10, Raggy?

no.
253,253,253 is 2 shades off white.

2 shades off white is opaque. See through hair. haha

opaque = not see through
see through = transparent.

@ragingloli Oaky…sooo then, one shade off white would be opaque and 2 shades off white would be transparent. 3 shades off white would be invisible. lol

no

^^^ LOL

Someone should start a cosmetics company that names colors their RGB values. I have no idea what color Sassy Minx is supposed to be, but 255, 35, 12 is helpful.

“I’m 43, I should be 26.”

-Trent Reznor

58 and I feel like i am 40.
Many people do not believe I am 50…
I have a grandmother that is 100 years old
and she looks about 80!