Is there a way to make my voice sound the way I thought it sounded like?

Sing songs as many as possible.

Regards,
Mateusz Gajdziak

No. Even if you had surgery on your throat and ears, you will never sound like you think you do, or want to.

No, it is impossible. Your voice will never sound the way you think it does because when you speak, vibrations from your speech travel through your body, and reach your ear drums.

Singing more will not help. Your voice has always sounded the way it does in recordings.

It may sound “bad” to you because it is not what you are used to hearing—I know when I hear anything I say played back to me, I shudder just a bit—but to everyone who knows you, it is your voice and they are probably very fond of it.

You can “modify” it a bit if you want, for different effects, and people do this all the time. My mom told me once she purposefully lowered the pitch in which she spoke, so that people in business would take her seriously. Actors, and even those who simply read aloud, adopt rhythms and intonations with more variance, to dramatize and/or emphasize. Newscasters have a particular way of talking, as do speechmakers. Etc. People adjust their speech patterns for different occupations/situations all the time. However, they will still sound like themselves.

As for singing, practice. Maybe even take lessons. I’ve never sung in any serious or artistic way, but my dad and my aunt both have. They talk about the practice and techniques involved; these things are learnable, and improvable. You will still sound like you, but again, I imagine that is a good thing to everyone who knows your voice. Think of how differently professional singers sound from one another; no one has the same voice, even after years of honing the same skill, yet they each sound beautiful.

You do have the option to take voice lessons. A voice coach can listen to you and give you specific vocal exercises to train your voice.

Autotune

vocal chords are like anything in the body, they can be trained, strengthened, but only to a point. You can make your voice stronger and have more control, BUT and this is a big but, your ability to stay in tune comes from your brain and that part is hard wired. If you can’t hear or control your pitch, there’s nothing to be done.
Have a read of this: http://discovermagazine.com/2014/julyaug/11-singing-in-the-brain

You can try getting your hands on a cheap, old, analog graphic equalizer. You’ll be able to play a recording of your voice though it and keep adjusting the equalizer until it sounds the way you think you sound. With the same setting have someone else sing and see how different it is.
You can buy one used at your local music shop for about $30. They are considered fossils.

Good for you for not giving up!

It may be hard wired, but I don’t know that it’s unchangeable, just sometimes very difficult: ”. . . remapping the brain is possible, but for adults it can be a very laborious task, requiring practice every day for years. When I ask Hutchins if there is hope for us poor singers, he laughs. ‘I would say there’s plenty of hope. Practice, practice, practice. A good vocal teacher and patience will help’” (from article linked above.)

My dad says my aunt was “awful” when she started taking singing lessons as a little girl, couldn’t hold a note. Now she can get strangers to cry. She went from one extreme to the other, because she kept at it. I imagine in that way, singing and dance are much alike. Very few people, if any, start out moving gracefully. It takes dancers years of rewiring their physical coordination, but it happens.

An excerpt from a RadioLab episode called “Musical Language” talks about some fascinating aspects of voice, music, and language. Jump to 7:00 for a discussion of tone languages—and how those who speak tone languages seem to have remarkable control over pitch—the first 7 minutes is worth listening to, too, though. They suggest pitch control may be influenced by infant language exposure, but they also point out that means humans have an ability to control pitch, even if it is never developed. So we’ve got the raw materials—not everyone will be a professional singer, but probably everyone can develop a singing voice if they work at it enough.

I was an “on the air” DJ on college radio, we had to record and listen to our voice. I remember I didn’t like what I heard. But was complemented to quality and intonation.

I would on occasion do a “Wolfman Jack” impersonation that had people calling the station to ask if they come by studio to get an autograph. LOL