How to handle unwanted gifts at birthday party?

You can’t fix it.
They broke it with their not being able to follow instructions. Put the gifts aside and leave them unopened during the party.

This seems to be inevitable. Gift-giving also happens at adult birthday and anniversary parties, even when the invitation had politely requested “no gifts, please.”

I would set-aside everything – both the animal shelter donations and the personal items – and have your child open everything after the party. Then, you can help your child write and mail thank-you notes, thus teaching him the delightful civility of being grateful and expressing appreciation. Nobody at the party would feel “cheap” for having brought animal products and no toy; those who ignored your child’s wishes and brought only a toy wouldn’t be embarrassed.

Great answers! Thanks I think I will set all the gifts aside. I hadn’t even considered that!

Personally, I think all gift-centered parties should leave the gifts aside, make the party about the guests, and allow the host to open and enjoy the gifts at their leisure. They can then express their gratitude with a thank you note.

That way, no one feels left out or uncomfortable at the party, and the host has ample time to come up with a convincing lie for a gift they didn’t really like.

No one likes being put on the spot.

Usually at the kids’ parties that we attend, the presents are taken away in the car and opened elsewhere.

I’m amazed that your 6 year old “asked for donations to an animal shelter in lieu of gifts”.

I would not open the gifts at the party. I don’t like opening gifts at parties to begin with. Showers tend to be the worst offenders for this practice.

I would graciously accept the gift, lots of thank yous and smiles, and then open the gift after the party. Perfect opportunity to teach your child to send a thank you card after receiving the gift, or to call and thank the person, whatever you choose as appropriate.

Don’t be stressed they bought gifts, their intention is in the right place. If it’s something your child doesn’t care about you can exchange it, return it, or regift it.

Kudos to your child (and you) for being so selfless.

@stanleybmanly: Me, too. Most six year olds, including mine, want their presents!