Are love stories like the Titanic a bad influence?
I used to watch movies like the Titanic when I was a teen and it made me put girls on a pedestal and I would chase them and fall so in love with them and draw pictures of them and I saw them as better then anything and deserving of my absolute love, attention and loyalty. Flash forward 20 years and now I realize that no one is as perfect as in the movies and Jack and Rose probably wouldn’t have worked out anyway even if he hadn’t drowned.
I realize now that you have to find a woman who’s as obsessed with you as you are with her and that’s even more rare than what I thought love was to begin with.
My point is that true love is probably different than the movies portray.
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True love is simply getting along with your mate, even that is pretty rare. If your mate is your best friend and you at least occasionally fuck each other consider it a massive blessing. Hollywood relationships are not in anyway like actual human relationships. Yeah, it’s a bad influence.
It’s only a bad influence when people take it too seriously. Hollywood gets ideas from real relationship, then dramatize them.
In 1817, Samuel Taylor Coleridge coined the term “suspension of disbelief”. In other words, if a writer is clever enough to spin a wonderful but even fantastical tale his audience will be willing to “suspend their disbelief” in order to engage with the story. Godzilla is not real. Neither are zombies. And while we may have loved seeing Gandalf, Sam and Frodo on their ring quest, their quest was not reality. Neither is the film Titanic. The ship might have existed. Perhaps there was a Rose and Jack on board, but probably not. So we suspend our disbelief whenever we engage with fiction, even fiction involving love. Such films are only a bad influence if people believe the idyllic love presented on the screen can be their own reality. Most of us are realistic enough to know that’s not true. And even those who do hanker after that fictional form of romance are soon brought down to earth.
In saying all of that, true love can and does exist. It might not be as perfect as the love we see on the big or little screen, it can nonetheless be wonderful.
Movie romances are bad influence only for cinema lovers who could not tell the difference between real and reel life…
Romantic movies are bad influence for girls in the same way that porn is a bad influence for guys. It shows an ideal that you’re not going to find, nor should you expect, in real life.
Oh odd you should choose that movie. My daughter was about 14 when it came out on TV, and we watched it together.
I glanced over at her when that hot, steamy scene in the car played out….and the look of “enlightenment” on my daughter’s face, the “magic” she thought she was seeing…...I wanted to cry out, “No! That’s not how it is, for a long, long time! And only with the right person! No!”
It wasn’t long after that, maybe two weeks, that she approached me about birth control so that she and her BF could have responsible sex.
I know, with all my heart, that that scene caught her at a pivotal moment in her life, and tipped the scale.
But, 15 years and 4 kids later, and that’s water under the bridge. HA HA HA HA HA HA!! I so funny!
Mariah- I guess I didn’t meet one of those girls that were influenced by love stories, lol.
The one’s I knew acted more like Porn stars.
I wanted us to love and trust each other and kiss passionately during sex, but they just seemed to want to be bitten, spanked, whipped, tied up and talked nasty to. Maybe women are watching too much porn these days too.
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