(NSFW) What does it mean if a guy orgasms too quick in oral sex?

Your male friend who is filling your head with such nonsense is an idiot, to put it bluntly.

That the “blow-ee” could suck a golfball up a hosepipe?

It means he suffers from an extreme form of premature ejaculation.

He is very much turned on to you. And it’s not at all premature, he’s been wanting to cum in your mouth for weeks.

@rojo Really? Phew. Honestly this was such a weird experience. Imagine wanting someone who isn’t attracted to you, but also inexperienced, so you second guess their words and pursue them. Its still uncomfortable.

@ucme Say what? Haha

No @ragingloli premature would be cumming before the mouth reaches the organ.

Being in bed with a guy who isn’t attracted to you is the worst for me, I learned.

@dopeguru Actually, it could be a little premature but that could be caused by hormones or because he inexperienced, anxious, excited with a new partner or afraid of getting caught.

I would go with inexperienced or overly excited.

@rojo Interesting. My friend said he cums fast in oral sex if the girl is ugly in his eyes. So thats totally not the case?

@dopeguru Haha, let me put it more simply, maybe the suckage is mighty powerful for his cum filled ballsack :D

Is oral sex your goal, or are you intending it to be foreplay before something more mutual?

If oral sex is your goal, mission accomplished.
If something more mutual is the goal – like intercourse – you should be able to arouse the young man again within a short time, and he’ll have more staying power.

At the least, you should invite him to give you a little oral sex first. Maybe the delay will distract him so he lasts longer.

@ucme Haha. I suppose :P

Its so strange. When I blew my ex, trying to finish, it took like 50 mins, and my head was about to explore. It was such torture! I felt nauseous after.

This dude took 15 seconds.

Men work in mysterious psychological ways.

Somehow I very much doubt it. I would hazard a guess that he is using that as an excuse to cover some personal shortcomings.

Think of it this way, why would you even bother with going to bed with someone you considered ugly if it was going to be over in 15 seconds? Better to go get a bag of Cheetos and sit on the sofa watching porn (not that you need Cheetos for that, just that I like them).

@ibstubro Yeah, I honestly didn’t know. I felt like he’d cum too fast and that I’d always be on top, so my mind wasn’t sure whether I’d be into intercourse or not. Worst part was I didn’t know if HE would be, as he said he wasn’t attracted to me. So meh, weird experience all around.

50 mins?!?
That’s like drilling for oil with a toothpick :)

Wait, “I don’t like you because I think you are ugly so lets go to bed and you can blow me” !! Why in the Hell didn’t you just kick him in the balls and walk dear?

@rojo Ha! That’s a very good point. He was in my bed sleeping, cuddling, and so on. We only ever kissed in the morning. Though sucky part is he blamed his erection for it, as if I was an object without a face or soul just for the sake of release. But regardless I suppose he wouldn’t have even stayed if he wasn’t attractive. True.

@rojo To tell you the truth? It’s because he is stunning. Haha. I knew we wouldn’t be together as he leaves to Greece for good like… In two days. All I really wanted was to get him in bed. But it would’ve been only normal if he was into me.

Ok, well that helps. Still get your own orgasm first next time.

@rojo Good advice. I have to

Mission accomplished!
You had sex with a young, stunning, unavailable guy that wasn’t attracted to you, and he got a free BJ!

There’s a lot of demand for that, FYI.

@ibstubro Hahaha! Yes, I thought I was with some sort of angel, no joke. Well he came in 15 secs, so not sure if he enjoyed it. xD

Reading over this thread, and as nice as it is to have a resource such as this – which was never available to many of us at that age – there was a certain charm in learning this the, um, hard way, so to speak. That is, to experience things and have to gain whatever wisdom was available to be got only from the experience itself and one’s own thoughts and limited research (and additional experimentation), rather than simply relying upon the experience of however large (and experienced) number of more-or-less trustworthy acquaintances.

It’s just an observation.

@dopeguru, if you’re right that this was the guy’s second-ever sexual experience with a young woman, then it’s one that he’ll probably recall for the rest of his life. With fondness and a certain measure of joy. Keep going with that experimentation if you like him. it’s doubtful that he would be there with you if he really didn’t like you. That’s nonsensical, as @rojo states.

And “too soon” is only between the two of you. If you’re both happy when it happens, then “too soon” is just some kind of weird style points. Don’t keep style points in this event.

@dopeguru Will it help to tell you that, yes, he enjoyed it whether he admits it or not?

How did you know it was 15 secs?
You counted your head bobs?
He used a stopwatch?

Gone in 15 Seconds…the prequel.

I’d really like to impress upon the reading audience the benefits and joy of engaging in sexual activity with someone you actually like, and are certain also likes you, as opposed to “ending up in bed” with any rando you can’t bring yourself to talk to afterwards.

@CWOTUS You have such great points. I’m a very mind-oriented person, thinking of something is enough, I like to think of hypotheticals and discover through what makes sense. I should be more empirical, I think.
I’m not even sure, honestly I don’t trust him because I think young men can lie about their experiences. For all I know he might even be a virgin, though probably not, but he is young and when we’re young and inexperienced we might lie about experiences.
I’m glad he’ll remember me. He’s leaving in 3 days and he is very irresponsive in general so I doubt I’ll ever see him again. I hope I made the experience worthwhile for him though.

@rojo He said I was really good, and that he never came this fast. But I don’t trust him. I suppose yeah, it might help xD

@ucme Haha. I’d say about 10–20 seconds… So 15 it is!

@Seek You’re right, but I’ve just been out of an overly abusive, cheat-full, deceitful relationship that this kind of interaction made me feel ‘safe’ in some ways. I don’t know if that makes sense, but emotionally speaking it did.

You’re right; it doesn’t make sense.

I’m the last person to shame a person for doing what makes them happy, but the fact that you asked this question tells me you’re not terribly happy with what you did. How “safe” can you feel if you left that situation still worrying that you’re not good enough?

Any partner that deserves to see you naked is not going to make you question whether you’re good enough.

@Seek I suppose my expectations have failed. What I thought ended up not being the case. I was lied to, shocked, my reality was shifted. So in terms of that, now I think not seeking anything necessarily good, as I’ve developed serious trust issues, is safe. Comfort in knowing the sadness of a situation, without being lied to and shocked, if that makes sense.

Just throwing this out there @dopeguru but trust is not your main issue; self-esteem is. You have no faith, no confidence in yourself or idea of your self-worth.

@rojo True. I’m confident in my personality, but looks, eh. People have been rude. If you’re above average or even average looking people tend to be rude. Especially if you’re in performing arts.

Besides that… Why do I worth anything? I’m nothing, yet I have all the dreams in the world. I’d choose not to exist. The line between not-existing and existing is where my struggle is.

If you are asking this you are not responsible enough for sex of any kind.

To put the vacuum cleaner away.
It was not built for such.

It means you’re talented at giving head…

What @zenvelo said!

So he ignored me today. He didn’t want to see me.

I wonder why I always fall for people who don’t.

@johnpowell There will always be questions where there is ‘human’.

I’m with @Seek on this.

What if a guy orgasms too quick?
For me it’s the opposite I like receiving oral pleasure, but I don’t usually orgasm that way because I’m desensitized from maturbating regularly. If I don’t masturbate for a week or so I’m ready to explode so maybe he’s oversensitive because he’s not masturbating at all.
I’ve heard of premature ejaculation as a condition, but I only know my own body and for me frequency of masturbation seems to control how quick or how long it takes me.