What's going on with my friend? I think she's been lying to me?

If she really is your friend, I would believe her until you have firm reason not to. It’s very hurtful to not be believed by people who you think care about you.

That said, I knew a girl who did this, and she really was lying. I don’t know what drives it. Some people just lie compulsively. I don’t know what they’re getting out of it.

I’d be wary and kind of keep my distance and just keep observing her ways and behaviors, as you seem to be. Do not share anything confidential with her and keep things light. You might want to read up on personality disorders like Histrionic PD (attention seeking ) and she seems to have paranoid traits as well but this could just be more attention seeking behavior. Compulsive lying is often symptomatic of personality disordered types.

Trust your instincts and if you feel uncomfortable around her find a way to phase yourself out of the relationship.

I have a feeling YOU will be the “bad guy” eventually

If I hear things that are hard to believe, I usually don’t believe them until I check them out (either by researching, if it’s something googleable, or by asking others, or whatever). In your friend’s case, I’d at the minimum be asking her for details. “You got jumped? Where? Did anybody see it? DId you get hurt? Did you go to the hospital? Let me see the bruise.” If her stories didn’t add up, she would not be someone I’d be friends with. Maybe she’s looking for attention, I don’t know but I don’t have time for attention-seekers or drama.

I sort of have this friend is a lot different level of commitment for you. Perhaps the best way for you to deal with this is to respond, “oh, I am sorry that is going on for you” and then change the subject.

You also don’t say what makes you think the statements are lies.

You’ve used the words “ridiculous” and “creepy,” which set off alarms. Your instincts are telling you that something’s wrong.

There are people who compulsively tell “tall tales” about themselves – stories that aren’t very deceitful or harmful, but that are also grossly exaggerated or completely untrue. Not to practice Dimestore Psychology, but I believe the tendency comes from a deep need for attention and to feel special and unique.

I would be aware of any inconsistencies in her stories. For example, if she tells you that her father pushed her into a wall on Sunday, and then later tells you that her family had a wonderful Sunday and went on a nice outing, you’ll know for certain that she has issues.

On the one hand, this person might need a good friend. On the other hand, professional counseling, not peer support, may be more appropriate, and a friendship could be too demanding for you to maintain. That’s a choice you’ll have to make.

@jca well I usually ask her for more details but she doesn’t really answer me,
she changes the subject or she won’t answer and stuff like that.
She also seems to have a new stalker every week, and when I asked to see the texts
she says she “deleted” them…:/

@skateangel I am a women in my 50’s now and knew a girl, very similar to the person you speak of when I was about 18. She was completely off the wall and I ended up distancing myself from her. Once, years later, after moving back to my old town, I saw her coming into a store where I was and I literally ran and hid behind a post. lol
I NEVER wanted to be around this nut case ever again.

I really suggest you find a way to distance, this girls behavior has so many red flags flying and you don’t need the drama. She sounds very unstable and the odds are high she is going to cause you some serious grief, sooner or later in one way or another. Best wishes.

Children fantasize. Teens fantasize. Adults fantasize.
As we grow and mature, these fantasies tend to become more playful. With children, they can be scary, and realistic. It performs a service to the learning experience. It helps children to understand how they would want to deal with frightening things if they ever happened, without actually living through it.
As we mature fantasies become more entertaining, and we (hopefully) better understand the difference between fantasy and reality.
Some people get stuck.
They know they have nothing tangible to support their stories, yet the circumstances seem quite real to them, and terribly frightening. Being confronted on it can be very upsetting to them, and yes, could put you on their list in the future.
Celebrities get fatal attraction issues often from people who believe their love fantasies, and although the subject is love, it usually ends up badly for at least one person in the scenario.

@skateangel RED FLAGS, you are describing a classic sociopath. This is unfortunate and you probably need to create as much distance as possible. Don’t allow the person to know what you are doing and do it slowly. Be mentally prepared for all kinds of crazy if they find out. I have known a handfull of people in my life like this and getting the hell away is what you need to do.

Thanks for the answers guys. A little while ago she actually came up to me and told me that she texted me the number of a guy who said he “wanted to kill her” (which I didn’t get because I blocked her). I was really freaked out, and I’ve been trying to distance myself from her.

@skateangel Haha…I don’t mean to laugh but yep, it’s gotta be crystal clear that this girl is a psycho. Just be really ” busy”, ” have a lot on your mind”, and keep an eagle eye out, scout the horizon and go the other way if you see her coming.