How would you answer these questions? (details inside)

1. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: independence or respect for elders?
Independence

2. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: obedience or self-reliance?
Self-Reliance

3. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: to be considerate or to be well-behaved?
Considerate

4. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: curiosity or good manners?
Curiosity

That being said, I’m big on manners as well.

1. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: independence or respect for elders?

Independence is more important. It teaches the child to survive in the real world prior to having to look after themselves. It is a very good skill for them to have. They can still learn to respect others afterwards.

2. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: obedience or self-reliance?

Self reliance. Obedience can sometimes be blind. We all need to learn to think for ourselves.

3. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: to be considerate or to be well-behaved?

Being considerate. Because simply being well behaved doesn’t neccessarily mean the child understands why they should do so. However being considerate means the child is learning to understand the feelings of others.

4. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: curiosity or good manners?

Curiosity is more important. It means the child will ask questions and eventually gain knowledge. Not asking questions out of good manners, can hold the child back intellectually.

1. A balance of the two, depending on the circumstances and the people involved.
2. See answer #1
3. See answer #1
4. See answer #1

As in all things, a black and white assessment is inappropriate.

4. As a child I found good manners to be an excellent way to get my curiosity satisfied.

@canidmajor pretty much sums up what I want to say.

1. Independence. Respect is earned and children shouldn’t be expected to respect anyone that doesn’t deserve it. Age is not a given for respect.

2.Self reliance. Part of independence and blindly being obedient is not part of independence.

3. Consideration. If a person is considerate well behaved usually follows on the coat tails of that.

4.Curiosity by far but curiosity and good manners don;t have to be mutually exclusive.

I don’t see why one would have to choose, but I will. I do think the age of the child matters for this Q.

1. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: independence or respect for elders?

Independence.

But, respect for elders is very important if only for the selfish reason that they have experience in life and can teach you a lot. Then there is the whole golden rule thing.

2. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: obedience or self-reliance?

Self reliance.

But, under age 10 obedience is pretty important, because young kids don’t have great judgement. Adolescence is important! Kids becoming defiant is important. They exercise their disobedience with their parents as practice. We want girls especially to not be in the habit of being obedient in my opinion. Men culturally take on leadership roles in relationships still today, leaving women to often with less of a voice.

3. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: to be considerate or to be well-behaved?

Considerate.

I don’t see how you can misbehave constantly and be considerate at the same time. These two things work in concert.

4. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: curiosity or good manners?

Curiosity.

But, if you don’t have good manners it’s stunts you from being able to socialize with people who can teach you things you are curious about.

”Respect is earned and children shouldn’t be expected to respect anyone that doesn’t deserve it. Age is not a given for respect.”

@Coloma: Amen to that sister. Much of my traditional Italian family does not see it that way. They’re more inclined to imply that, “I can treat you poorly and you should still respect me because I am your aunt/uncle/mother/etc.”

And “respect” generally means “do what I say”.

Cookieman leads the parade, and I follow in lockstep.

I don’t see why one would have to choose, but I will. I do think the age of the child matters for this Q.

1. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: independence or respect for elders?

Independence.

But, respect for elders is very important if only for the selfish reason that they have experience in life and can teach you a lot. Then there is the whole golden rule thing.

2. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: obedience or self-reliance?

Self reliance.

But, under age 10 obedience is pretty important, because young kids don’t have great judgement. Adolescence is important! Kids becoming defiant is important. They exercise their disobedience with their parents as practice. We want girls especially to not be in the habit of being obedient in my opinion. Men culturally take on leadership roles in relationships still today, leaving women to often with less of a voice.

3. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: to be considerate or to be well-behaved?

Considerate.

I don’t see how you can misbehave constantly and be considerate at the same time. These two things work in concert.

4. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: curiosity or good manners?

Curiosity.

But, if you don’t have good manners it’s stunts you from being able to socialize with people who can teach you things you are curious about.

(Thanks @JLeslie. You saved me a lot of typing!)

1. Independence: 100% | Respect for elders: 0%

2. Self-reliance: 80% | Obedience: 20%

3. Consideration: 80% | Good behavior: 20%

4. Curiosity: 70% | Manners 30%

@Dutchess_III I had to do a double take at first. Lol. Thanks :).

1. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: independence or respect for elders?

2. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: obedience or self-reliance?

3. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: to be considerate or to be well-behaved?

4. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: curiosity or good manners?

Clearly, I want children to be raised to be like me.

1. Respect (how can a child have independence?)
2. Self reliance
3. Considerate
4. Curiosity

I couldn’t say it any better than @cookieman, so I won’t. Ditto.

1. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: independence or respect for elders? Independence.
2. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: obedience or self-reliance? Self-reliance.
3. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: to be considerate or to be well-behaved? Considerate.
4. Please tell me which one you think is more important for a child to have: curiosity or good manners? Curiosity.

I don’t see any of these as either/or attributes. Every person will have a better life when they have a healthy balance of each of these.