How would you react to this?

Only the person this happened to can answer this question. Too many variables that are unknown.

It would depend on the circumstances surrounding her leaving you for someone else. Was the issue solely just to be with that other person? Or was there something else going on too?

I think the word used explains itself.

I don’t know. Why did they end it with me? Was I a pain in the arse? A bitch? Was he bored brainless? Was I always working? Was he a rat who liked to cheat? Was I less important than his own pleasure? Why did he leave?

Impossible to say without more information.

All of the above are nicer than me.

There are almost eight billion people in the world. It can’t be that hard to find someone who isn’t going to use you like a doormat.

@Seek You’d be surprised.

Perhaps he had self-respect @Seek. Perhaps she didn’t treat him well and he said – enough. People leave for a whole range of different reasons and sometimes the reason is about our behaviour and not theirs. Or he might have been a dog.

I agree with those above who say it depends on so many things.

I had a situation sort of like that, but it wasn’t for another lover, but for something else.

I did and do forgive them, but it’s an issue, and it got me to re-interpret the whole relationship. Circumstances are now such that there won’t be a getting back together, but in theory if your scenario happened, it would require cleaning up all the misconceptions of the old relationship, getting that all cleaned up, and then creating new agreements that explicitly were not going to lead to anything like the same misunderstandings or events happening again.

If it were a relationship I was in, it’s hard to answer this without more details. Length of the relationship, why it broke up, how long it was broken up for, etc. etc.

If it’s someone else’s relationship, I never judge. I may have an opinion, but I try to always remind myself that you only know what you see. The reality of someone else’s relationship may be totally different. You may see people treat each other lovingly in public but at home, the guy is an asshole or the woman is a bitch or whatever. Who knows.

“Ditching” is a highly pejorative word. It sounds as though you’ve already made up your mind, and you’re here to solicit reasons to help your rationalization process, or to get snappy comebacks to retort when the person asks why you can’t forgive. What if the other party agonized over a tough decision and had second thoughts about it from that moment on?

You’ve decided that you were ditched – and I’m not saying you weren’t; I’m just saying that you’ve presented this as the prosecutor – and now you’re asking us as a jury to bring in a guilty verdict without hearing the other side.

Probably not. But that is just me.
I figure it sort of depends on how desperate you are.
And only you knows that.

Doubtful. If they walked away once, what’s to prevent them from bailing out again?

Would you ever trust someone who ditched you? Why?

Well..I’m not here for any verdict. Just wanted to see reactions from different individuals based on personalities. Just to add more reference to that it happened with a friend of mine. He was in a serious relationship with a lady for year or so. Then came along another guy from her college days and she ditched my friend for that guy. After 4–5 months later she is apologetic for her behaviour and wants to start relationship once again.

too many variables to form a decision. Things such as the time that has passed since the injury, plus the circumstances surrounding it. There are just entirely too many unknowns in the phrasing of the question.

If I was open to getting back with that person, I would want to know from them, “what’s going to be different this time? What are you doing that I can rely on that is different?”

Probably not. You have to make a pretty compelling argument to fuck me over twice. Fool me once.. Fuck off.

Sometimes when the relationship is getting too intense and one partner may feel pressured to commit, then they may react by leaving?
Sometimes it may be that they need to discover If their feelings for you are “love” and not just “lust”/
Or sometimes they cannot resist a temptation…of which could reoccur in a relationship well after marriage?
It all depends on your feelings for him and his feelings for you and if they are genuine to build trust again. Determine if it is NOT a pattern in his life?