Do people look to you for leadership?

Yes, they often do. I am OK with it.

Yes, it’s always been that way. I accept leadership roles all the time. It’s me.

If they don’t look to me for leadership then I hunt them down and exterminate them.

I’m cool widdit.

No. I force it on them.

Yeah. It’s certainly not that I exude leadership vibes, though. I’m not comfortable in leadership positions, and I’m pretty sure it shows. When I’ve ended up as a leader, it’s been because I was thrust into the breach as the only one qualified to lead. I’ve never sought it out, and I would be more than happy if someone better suited would take it.

Not currently, but in my last job frequently. Frankly being the person who knew everything was draining. I got called for anyones emergency. Being a trainee for a new job is somewhat refreshing but at the same time lacks the stimulation and excitement of being out in front. Leaving one for the other was like jumping out of a fire into an icy river

On certain things yes. Often it’s trivial things. It’s quite annoying sometimes. I don’t want the control or responsibility a lot of the time.

Just two weeks ago my husband’s cousin came into town. He had called my FIL over a month before to say he wanted to get together when here. In the meantime, my husband and I moved in with his parents. We haven’t lived in this area for over 12 years.

Fast forward and the cousin is here, staying about 45 minutes south of my inlaws, and a plan needs to be made for place and time for all of us to meet for dinner. The cousin calls to make the plan and my FIL gives me the phone. WTF? Why me? I don’t live here anymore, I don’t know the area 45 minutes south well at all, and I have never met this cousin. They do that shit to me all the time. I do half understand because they generally suck at planning anything. It really gets tiresome. Luckily, this cousin was great, and had an idea of what he wanted to do.

At work I was a manager and it was normal for my staff to look to me for leadership, although they for the most part were quite good at managing themselves.

In my car club they looked to me all the time to plan things. I didn’t always want the responsibility.

Yes. Often. It’s my job.
The touch of grey doesn’t hurt either.

It’s my natural instict to become a leader. The only reason that I might allow someone to be my leader if that person is better than me in many things, otherwise I’ll be independent.