Would you ever date an asexual person?

I’ve had a lifetime of romance and great sex, now I just want good conversation and shared interests and companionship.
Male, female, straight, gay, assexual, three heads and a hump, matters not to me. Honestly, once the hormones calm down it really opens up a lot of opportunity to really enjoy people without all the sexual tension in the back ground, personally I’m liking it this way. It’s a refreshing change.

If I were in the market, absolutely. I’m on the asexual spectrum myself. I’m not sex-averse, but I don’t have much of a sex drive in general, and only very rarely have sexual feelings.

I wouldn’t mind at all a romantic relationship that happened to be sexless.

If it’s love, it’s love. But I would hope that an asexual person who was in love with someone not on the asexuality spectrum would be open to the idea of consensual non-monogamy.

In fact, a lot of non-asexual people would probably be better off if they were open to the idea of consensual non-mongamy. But that’s a whole other issue.

I have healthy testosterone levels. Sex is still important to me and is needed to keep the relationship whole and complete.
Sex is shared intimacy that adds color and flavor to the big picture.

I doubt it. It’s hard to imagine pursuing someone who I knew was asexual; it seems like a large sacrifice to make, very early in a relationship. If I found myself gradually falling for someone, then found out later that they were asexual, then I could see it. Maybe.

No. I really don’t think I would be happy. I enjoy sex and sex is an important part of a relationship for me.

I would be down. I hate washing the bedding. Fitted sheets are proof that the devil is real.

asure- if they’re awealthy anough.

No, my penis would never forgive me

@johnpowell Dude! If you’re not using that prostate can I borrow it for a while?
One of the “benenfits” of a prostatectomy is no mess. The contractions feel exactly the same but you shoot blanks. Any mess is her fault.

Probably not, considering how high my sex drive has been since around age 18. If it ever calms down, then maybe I’d consider it.

This question isn’t hypothetical for me. A couple months ago I met a great guy and we went on a couple dates. As we got to know each other, he told me more about himself. He has a severe case of depression that has come and gone all his life. Due to that and the antidepressants he has a very low sex drive and doesn’t date often (but he thought I was so “compelling and confident” that he wanted to get to know me better.)

He was the one who broke it off, but then we stayed in touch and ended up becoming friends. He’s smart, nice, and interesting, and we call each other every couple days and hang out every week or two. This friendship feels a lot like early-stage dating, except there’s no expectation for things to escalate through the steps of dating (like spending more time together, declaring your feelings, moving in together, or whatever). It’s also different from my friendships with other guy friends. Most of my guy friends are casual buddies, like the kind you hang out with at group get togethers sometimes. He’s become part of my inner circle, and we have real conversations.

So… I don’t know. I have a very minimal urge to date these days anyway, but it seems like it would take a LOT of mutual respect for people with mismatched sex drives to make it work. There seem to be a lot of people out there who are not in mutually respectful relationships and can’t even handle regular dating. I was in relationships with people who had a higher sex drive and always made me feel guilty and like I “owed” them sex, and it was awful. The other side of the coin is the desperate people in places like r/deadbedrooms (a subreddit & one of the saddest things I’ve ever read.)

A carefully-negotiated open relationship sounds like a good answer for the romantic side of things. And lots and LOTS of mutual respect and empathy. I think with those two qualities, just about any couple can be happy. For me and my friend, just being friends has been a very positive outcome.

^ When I look back at my 20s, 30s, & 40s through the lens of time my one regret is I didn’t do it enough.

@Haleth I decided to look at the link you mentioned, r/deadbedrooms, and have to agree: it is incredibly sad. So many misunderstandings tat result in frustrations.
She speaks so softly he can’t hear her so he speaks louder hoping she will follow. His loud voice hurts her ears so she speaks softer hoping he will get quieter. And so it spirals to oblivion…..

Yes.