I need help with what to do with this guy at my school. Can anybody help me!

Just be a good friend for now. DON’T push him. Or you will push him away.

Immature, not able to process and be honest about his own feelings pass on it for now.

If he is gay (or not!) he is probably very confused while he is finding himself. People do that at different ages; one of the big mistakes we all make is assuming others have explored certain questions about ourselves at the same rate we have.

So, be a friend, as @RedDeerGuy1 said. Listen when he talks but don’t push the subject.

And really, you can always call Dan Savage, an expert on all aspects of sexuality, especially about non hetero aspects. Call the Savage Love Podcast at 206–302-2064 or email Dan at mail@savagelove.net.

My daughter had a friend back in High School that all of us just knew he was gay. She and her other female friends thought we were wrong and that he was just effeminate and we were being closed minded on what a boy should be. To our surprise he married a female. But she was very masculine so we still thought he was in denial. Sure enough. A year into his marriage they divorced and he moved away from everyone he knows and last we heard has come out and was in a relationship with a guy.

My point is that maybe he isn’t ready to come out to himself, much less his local world. He may never come out while he is in school. He may be holding off till he is far away and can feel freer to do so without having to think how those around him will respond. Ultimately, it is his call. He doesn’t need you to help facilitate things. As @RedDeerGuy1 has said, be a friend. He may simply want someone to know secretly without actually saying it out loud to them or himself for now.
But if it’s too much for you to be teased, let him know that he needs to cut out the flirting even if it is in jest.

Sometimes the chase is all the person is after not the ‘catch”.
Leave this person alone to “play” games with other unsuspecting souls to wonder the same things?
Some people just like to play with anothers emotions, and that is an indicator of selfish motives.
Move on to better people who are honest and respect others better.

Just leave it alone. In fact, for your own sanity, you should try to end this thing (whatever it is) between you two. No where in the question did you state that you really liked this guy. If he’s straight then you have no chance. If he’s open to homosexual relationships then he is teasing you and/or leading you on.

I don’t know about men, but straight girls love to flirt with lesbians. I think they just like attention, for the most part.

This is coming from someone in the community, me. Leave it alone. You will only end up getting hurt. If he is questioning and he likes you then he will come to you. Don’t play his flirty games.

Maybe he isn’t gay. That is possible you know.

“He is convinced that he is straight,” but you don’t think he is? And you want to prove it to him? You know, what you’re doing is just as bad as people trying to convince you that you aren’t really gay, there is just something wrong with you. How does that make you feel? Just leave the poor guy alone.

What she said. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
It does not matter what you feel you know, or what anyone else feels they know. So long as that man claims he is straight, then that is how you treat him.
In regards to flirting, I have known several people who just naturally seem flirty, but it is just how they are, no matter who they are with.
From another perspective, I have also known people who were so smitten by someone, they thought that person was flirting with them.
I am not telling you these things to hurt your feelings. I am telling you this because you are set on one track and right or wrong, you are likely headed for some real heartache. Maybe this friend is toying with you. Maybe you are toying with yourself. The fact is, the only thing the young man has offered you is friendship. That is all you can ask for unless he starts saying otherwise.
If you were female, and interested in him, I would still advise you to stay at friendship unless he indicated he felt otherwise. You cannot, and should not pressure people into a relationship they are not ready for.

This question just bugged me last night. I started getting pissed, actually.

Here are a couple of my experiences with men, as an attractive, very attractive young lady:

“With a body like that you’re just built for sex!” I think I was supposed to be flattered. I wasn’t.

Some guy I’d never seen before walked up to me in the club and said, “Come on! Lets get out of here! You want me! You know you want me!” (Warning flags went up….I had to respond very carefully because this could tip over into aggression. The more aggressive the advance, the more aggressive the reaction to rejection.)
“Well, I’m rather busy at the moment. Excuse me,” and my girlfriends and I discreetly packed up and left. In a protective group.

A girl friend and I were in line at Denny’s after the bars closed. Some drunk old guy, old enough to be our father, started harassing my friend and would not back off no matter how politely and gently she rejected his advances. He just got more and more aggressive. My friend was much more passive than I, and she turned and with big frightened eyes said, “That guy won’t leave me alone!”
I was taller than her, and I put her behind me, stepped up to the guy and said, “Leave. Her. Alone. She is not interested.”
He got pissed, started calling me names, telling me it was between him and her, and she WAS interested, just look at the way she was staring at him now!!! (She was terrified.)
They finally threw him out.

The catch is, every single one of those men read something that was not there in me and my friend. They read flirtation in the briefest, unintentional and accidental eye contact, or a throw away smile or laugh. When I danced with someone, and they were on the sidelines with 70 other men, they were convinced I was actually dancing just for them, just to flirt with them. I was just teasing them, see.

They really wanted me, so they convinced themselves that I wanted them just as bad, and saw shit that was not there.

And sometimes I felt like screaming “I AM NOT INTERESTED!!!” but they would think I was just playing hard to get and being so CUTE. Plus they’d also get angry. We try really hard to avoid angry men.

Now, there is one line in your story that makes me think of these few instances, which are but a drop in the bucket of unwanted sexual harassment I endured in my young adult life, and that is: ”...he did not say that he was straight as adamantly as he says it now

He is not interested in you sexually, no matter what you THINK you see, or wish you saw.

Leave the guy alone stop and trying to get into his pants.

I haven’t said all lot of this to him, at least recently, these are my own internal thoughts, stop acting like I’m this horrible person for having my own free will to believe what I believe. But I do consider the possibility of him not being gay, I don’t think he’s 100%, and never really have (no one is 100% of either extreme of sexuality), so again, can it. The evidence for the contrary however is to great, and I have many psychology articles that can back up some of the behaviors that show him as in denial, not even related to sexuality some of them are. Another point I can bring up; when I do bring it up to him or thinks I am even slightly, he begins denying and denying, and then providing very little evidence for his argument. But when I don’t bring it up or he doesn’t thing I’m trying to, he’s all smiling flirtatiously and saying stuff that is sometimes a little flirtatious and he doesn’t try to actively resist it. And by his OWN logic, if you don’t deny something a bit, you are it. He said that about something we were talking about the other day. You guys will never be able to know the full story because you won’t be able to see us in person, you won’t be able to talk to him, and you won’t know all the things that have transpired between us bc that would take so long to type and I kinda just remember them at times. He’s not the type to manipulate people, he’s said how wrong that is himself, and toying with someone is manipulation, sooooooooo…
Case in point

@dr_sickness I sent you a PM. I’m not attacking you. Please read the PM and consider what I said.

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@dr_sickness you ask, “what to do with this guy at my school?”, but I don’t see where anyone asked you what you see your options as, here.

What’s your question for us?
Friendship or not?
Try for more or not?

”[I]t’s not just me, my psychologist, my mother, one of my teachers from last year, they all see it.”
You see to have a strong support group in real life. If you tell us what you need/expect from us, and if we can support/advise you on-line, we will.

It sound’s to me as if your real life support group is warning you off expecting something more rewarding from your relationship with this guy. @tinyfaery seemed to agree with that advice, while at the same time having your back.
As crudely as you feel like some people here expressed it, your take-away seems to be about 100% – step back (way back) from your romantic feelings for this guy.