Should I sign up for a paid membership to E-harmony?

I think the same people are on all the dating website, so you might get a couple of messages. and waste your money on a new website.

Why would you pay money when there are free chatbots all over the net?

@XOIIO What’s a chatbot? Thanks I Googled it I want to talk to a real person.

https://www.reddit.com/r/RedDeer/comments/4djn6s/anyone_want_to_go_for_a_walk/

Posted five days ago.

Here.. I saved you 30 bucks a month.

Edit :: And I have a active Reddit account that is 10 years old. If you want my to help to break the ice and talk you up a bit I will.

@RedDeerGuy1 What I’m saying is, at least usually, most of the people on those sites aren’t people at all, or they are some random person who is paid to make you think there are active people on the site.

Rather than a paid membership site, I suggest you try alternative ways of meeting people with whom you share interests. A good one is to check out meetup.com which has meet ups of people organized by interest.

It costs nothing to join, and there a variety of interests, from hiking to book clubs to discussion groups to social mingles. Some of them charge a dollar or two per event. But it is a way to meet a variety of people and get to know them in a low key environment.

Spend that money on KFC.
At least then you will get instant gratification.
and it won’t matter to anyone if you are a leg man, or a breast man.

Are you an introvert which might be the reason you’re not able to find real people around you. Try to be more social…go outdoors and try to create interest in something which will enable you to meet more people.

What are you hoping to get out of such a site if you do pay for a membership?

No just use Tinder or Badoo, they are free. Never pay for dating services.

You should go outside and meet people in real life.

Have you visited that center I shared with you in your last question about meeting people?

It won’t make a difference if you won’t leave your house although there are specific sites for people with certain issues or personality types.

I wonder if there is a site for agoraphobics, how to have a meaningful relationship without ever leaving home. lol

I second @zenvelo‘s strong recommendation for Meetup.com. In fact, I attended the wedding yesterday of a dear young friend I made through Meetup. (And since she’s about half my age, I would not even have met her if not for Meetup.)

I’ve had plenty of chances to date via Meetup, including a monthly book club that I’ve belonged to for over six years. The fact that I haven’t availed them is not a failure of Meetup.

Join Meetup – and then attend some meetups. Don’t expect it to have the same dynamic as “a dating website”, and for your own sake don’t try to make hookups through that – unless the meetup is specifically oriented that way.

@All thanks I appreciate your help. I’m putting the money I saved on a cable television subscription.

::sigh::

@Seek Sorry I get scared meeting new people. I can’t find your link. I am going to save money and buy more books.

I don’t think it hurts to try, isn’t there a trial period? I’ve known a few people that have been happily married for years and met online. I personally wouldn’t do it unless I didn’t have time to meet people liked out an stuff.

I will take a break from signing up to eharmony for now. I’m sick right now. Sorry to everyone who contributed to this thread. I am going through some changes in medicine right now. Also I am scared to meet anyone new right now. Thanks all.

Alrighty then.

@RedDeerGuy1 You should try the virtual world Second Life. You can meet all sorts of people from all walks of life and all around the world. And you never have to even step out your door. A lot of people have made great friends and found relationships on there. Many have even ended up married. I am so not even joking. Here is the link to the site. I have been a member for 9 years and I love it.

It is, but as a guy you’ll get out of it what you put into it.

Don’t expect women to be contacting you; most women are bombarded with messages, so do not really need to be seeking out guys. Besides it’s more masculine to do the chasing, that’s just the way it is.

Put up the best photo of yourself that you can, spend some time making good profile and send something individual and unique to each lady you message.

Good luck!

Canceled my cable. And answered my eharnony more honest. Did not pay for a membership yet.

So what if you get scared meeting new people? Do you suppose that you’re so unique in that regard? Do it anyway.

Don’t plan to be a stud. Don’t expect that you have to ‘score’. Don’t expect that you’ll even have an opportunity to score. Just get out of the house, and out of your head.

Do you know what courage is? Courage is being afraid… and still doing what you have to do in spite of that fear. Please, not for our sake but for your own, show some. Despite your self-imposed limitations. Despite your anxiety. Despite your reservation, past history, self-consciousness, shyness… whatever excuse you can imagine as the “reason why I can’t do this” ... just do it.