Could someone help me analyze this chat conversation[Details inside]?

She’s finding you to be a liar … twice in one conversation. Not going too well for you right now.

First off, you told her that “if I like a girl, I’ll tell her” … but you like her and you didn’t tell her.

Second, you lied about playing a game as the reason for your delay, and she probably picked up on that in some way, which is why she left the conversation as she did.

It doesn’t matter to us whether you like her or not or whether you tell her or not. But it should matter to you that you feel a certain way, and tell her how you will act if you feel that way … and then fail to follow up. “Honest” would be: “I don’t know how to respond”, which would start a, y’know, conversation. Lying is seldom a good way to start a conversation.

You don’t have to like her; that’s a choice. If you like her, you don’t have to tell her, either; that’s another choice. But if you say how you will act if you like her and then fail to act that way – and take a long time admitting that – then she’s feeling the lie.

What have you got to lose by telling her that you like her “more than as a friend” if that’s true? Well, you could make yourself vulnerable, for sure.

She likes you. It’s up to you whether or not to follow up on that, and how you do that. But if you don’t know that she likes you, then you’re probably not mature enough to be out of the house alone and talking to girls in the first place.

“If I like a girl, I’ll tell her”
Do you like me?
“I have no idea”

doesn’t exactly mesh with

”a girl I like”

Your pants, sir, are on fire.

but she said “will you” not “do you” and really… I can’t tell her I do in a conversation on Facebook knowing that she already has a boyfriend :S and as for the “end of conversation” it is simply because we changed subject afterwards which is irrelevant to this question. (just to clarify that no the conversation did not just end there)

Relevant question: How old are you?

Also another point I would like to clarify as for the why I haven’t told her, there are two reasons. 1— She’s already dating and as I said, soon 1 year so. 2— It was on Facebook.
@Seek 18. Does it really matter?

Yes, it does. If you were 14, I’d let you field it on your own, because 14 year olds need to work through the awkward phase of learning how to talk to girls.

At 18, honestly, you should know how to communicate like a human by now.

From the grammar you used in the first dialog snippet: “Do will you ever tell me” it was quite impossible to determine nuance; it had to be guessed at.

@CWOTUS sorry, typo…it is “will” not “do”.

At 18, my grandfather was blowing up Panzer tanks and killing Germans with his bare hands, and you’re having a hard time conveying meaningful sentences to a girl you aren’t even actually looking at.

Seriously.

@Seek Last time i checked, people on Fluther were nicer and more helpful.

I’m trying to talk some sense into you. You’re an adult. I honestly couldn’t tell that from the above text conversation.

If you, as an adult, like her, an adult, as an adult, why not make a decision as an adult to either tell her or not, and quit the middle school chatroom antics?

@Seek Guys tend to be more apt to violence than responsible communication with girls, especially at 18.

But otherwise I agree with what you’re saying.

The girl in the chat seems pretty straight and responsible.
The guy in the chat seems very immature, confused/panicked, and as a result of that and inexperience, dishonest.

If you want there to be an actual relationship between yourself and another person, you must be honestly yourself. If you are not honestly yourself, the most that is possible to accomplish, is a dishonest relationship between another person, and some fake character you’re pretending to be.

So don’t do that. That’s what you were doing. I can get that you were, as you say, panicking and afraid to tell the truth. But it’s a waste to lie. If a question scares or panics you, I recommend honestly saying that you don’t want to answer that question right then. Don’t say bullshit or lie. Almost everything you wrote was bullshit. Don’t write anything that’s bullshit.

She could be asking you out of boredom, or out of curiosity, or out of suspicion you like her, or because she already figured it out, or because she’s actually interested… or, given the way you were in that chat, if you’ve been anything like that before, she may already know and know that you’re full of bullshit, and just wants to watch you squirm and spout bullshit, because she can’t believe how bullshit your answers are.

If you’re capable of actually being straight, then swear to yourself to cut the crap, apologize for the bullshit the last time. Then also clean up all other lies and bullshit. Then be straight. If you don’t want to talk to her about liking her because she has a boyfriend, do it in a straight and responsible way, such as, “If I did like you, I would want to wait until you were single to talk about it” or “I might be interested if we were ever single at the same time, but I don’t want to talk about it before then.”

I think you really mishandled this conversation. You probably realise that anyway. Chalk it up to experience and don’t do it again. Move on to someone else because this poor girl is not going to know which way the wind is blowing with you.

Try to get to know people as people. If the relationship turns romantic then great, but if not then you still have a friend. Be kind, be honest and be consistent. Above all DON’T PANIC!

@Stinley Just laughing because someone shouting “DON“T PANIC!” makes me want to panic.

STOP PANICKING! @janbb

OMG! OMG!

@Stinley @janbb is right, your “DON’T PANIC!” does make me panic haha.

STOP PANICKING! @divinepk3r