Should I break up a two year relationship over the phone?

Is there a wife or another woman? If so, the phone is fine.

@stanleybmanly Not really,there is no wife or another women!, I just want to be careful cause sometimes we do things by impulses and not really and deeply mean it.

Phil Collins used the fax. Go for it.

No. Ask yourself how you’d feel if he did that to you.

Are you afraid that you will weaken and not break up with him when that is really what you feel you want to do? If that is so, I would at least give him the courtesy of a lengthy e-mail rather than a text.

But in general, unless he is abusive, I think it is only fair to break up in person after two years.

I think a phone call…an actual voice phone call would be best. Explain to him your reasons. It would be the kind thing to do if it has been 2 years and your reasons are not about him.

Just send a PM that you don’t want to know them anymore.

This sounds like a sur[rise to him, so in person or a voice conversation are better. The only excuses for a PM or a text is if you fear for your safety or you are not resolved on breaking it off.

But if you want to make sure he does not bother you asking what is going on, you need to break it off by telling him. If I got a text or a PM I would want to know what happened.

I agree with @janbb and @zenvelo.

@Jak Phil Collins sent a fax? Classy~

Please don’t text. That’s cruel.

“I just called to say…fuck off!”

I might be old-fashioned (bwahahaha), but that’s rude as fuck. Face to face. You might not want to be with this person, but after two years you have to respect the person and the time you spent together.

Unless he’s been abusive, or you are truly afraid that he might become violent, then talk to him face to face. It’s cold hearted and rude to phone, PM, text or email a breakup.

My friend in university sent me an email that all of my emails would be deleted unread. It hurt and I fell into a deep depression. I was devistated. Then angry. I suggest breaking up in person.

There’s also the possibility of a heartfelt letter. Yes, I’m talking about pen and paper (not email) and an envelope with a stamp placed in a mailbox.

I know it’s old fashioned but it clearly requires a sincere effort.

I agree with others that in person is best but if you’re afraid of him talking you out of it, (and that’s more about you than him) then, at the least, a letter fully explaining what you’ve written here would be far less rude than a text. That’s just too tacky for words.

@Buttonstc I agree with the hand written letter.

I think @Buttonstc‘s idea is good too. I hadn’t thought of a real letter.

Nobody really likes getting the “Dear John” letter, but in this day and age it is infinitely preferable to an email or text.

At least it shows some effort at sincerity.

Unless you feel you might not be safe, I think after two years you should meet with him personally and have the backbone to explain your decision. It would be cruel and cowardly not to. What emotions are they that you feel you can’t control? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Would you want someone you care for to send an email telling you a person they don’t want to continue a relationship after two years?

I think of it as cowardly to not do it in person. Like @janbb said, are you are afraid he will talk you out of it? I think it’s respectful and appropriate to do it in person.

I agree with the penguin.

You could always compromise and hire a break up girl to stand in for you. Sub it out. lol
No, seriously, in person after 2 years is the action of integrity.

No, Unless your entire relationship consisted of phone sex you should not use a phone to break up. Grow some balls and do it in person.

This is not what most people would say – but I, actually, would prefer to be broken up with over the phone. Better yet, in writing. I need some time to withdraw when I’ve been hurt. This does not mean I wouldn’t expect a talk soon afterwards, to clear things up – but in the moment, alone time would be great. You know your partner better than any of us. Is this something that could work, for him?

Coming from someone who has recently ended a 2 year relationship. It will be easier and worth while if you both sit down in person and talk about it. Ending relationship over the phone is very childish to me and shows immaturity.

@cecilia09 So what did you decide to do?