He may be trying to get rid of you but it may be because of your actions and resistance to him. From the questions you wrote in the beginning of his arrival (which, along with your posts, are all we have to go on), it seemed you were resistant to changes he was making or was trying to make. Changes like having you sit at the reception desk, issues with the painters, etc. Please take a look at your reaction to his attempts at change and ask yourself if maybe you had something to do with the relationship you and he now have.
Maybe he is a total scumbag but maybe, at your job, there was a status quo and now he’s upset the apple cart with his changes. Maybe some of his changes are for the better but there’s a resistant bunch at work who liked the way things used to be, liked the old regime and liked working with the previous administration.
The previous administration is now gone and unless you can evolve to working with the new guy, you are suffering detrimental health issues.
I work for an organization where we advocate for employees who work under a contract (I’m trying to be vague with the details because I have some people on our Board who google and I don’t want them figuring out who I am). People come into my office, both friends and members, and they gripe about things at work that are just exactly like what you’re talking about. I hear it all the time. My boss hates me. My boss doesn’t say hello to me. She does this that makes no sense. She does that that makes no sense. She gives me more work than the next person. All day long I hear this. Most of what I hear is stuff that I can’t help with in a practical way, as the employees work under a contract and the personality differences are not something we can advocate for. Also, as you know, many times it “takes two to tango” and the employee (our member) is just as much a part of the issue as the boss. Each one gets resistant and head butting takes place. Everyone is resistant – both boss and subordinate.
The employees (members of the organization) ask me how I handle it and how I’ve been with my employees for so long (over 20 years in various departments). I tell them to take tests and move around if they can. Also, for them to take advantage of the employer’s reimbursements for education.
For you, can you take tests and work for another school in your district?
Also, if you really examine your behavior and resistance to the new principal’s changes, is it possible you’re been unpleasant and nasty? If so, maybe you can change your attitude a bit? Maybe when he wants you to work at reception, just do it without an argument. When he says the painters did a bad job (or however he worded it), just be quiet and think that maybe it’s possible the painters did a bad job and don’t jump to their defense.
I really believe that the majority of bosses just want their employees to come in on time and do their work.
I, too, have had bosses that I couldn’t stand. When I really thought it was an unworkable situation, I took tests and moved around.
As far as gaining weight and being stressed out, try to compartmentalize your work and the rest of your life. Deal with your health issues and your weight separately. Think hard before you eat something and try to take walks after work. Exercise does a lot toward relieving stress.
Also, find a good therapist.
If you leave your job, you may feel a different kind of stress when you’re dealing with signing up for public assistance, trying to get through the maze of Social Service agencies and trying to get health care. In addition, your doctors may change or the services you receive may be lessened when you have Medicaid instead of whatever insurance you have now. You may face stress of a different type when you are low on funds and struggling to pay bills. Don’t quit without lots of introspection and forethought first. Once you leave, you can’t change your mind.
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