Am I being unintentionally selfish?

Does the man who helps you appear to be too busy to help you? Does he seem to resent giving you a hand? Perhaps he likes helping you. Perhaps he likes you. I don’t think you’re being selfish. Do you ask him to help, or does he volunteer? It really depends on how this situation began and whether the interaction is positive or negative for him and you.

You can tell this person that your really appreciate their help but they must promise that if gets in the way of their other duties to please let you know. You would find a way to manage because you don’t want them getting into trouble. If they really want to help and it is no bother, they will let you know that they like to maybe take a little break away from their other duties, or that it’s usually slow and it gives them something to do, so it isn’t a bother. Could also be the other people are on a tighter schedule and just want their stuff to go, so they can pick it up quickly and leave with little human interaction.

I don’t think it’s selfish as long as you are not demanding of the help and the guy does not appear to be busy with other things.

One suggestion, if the boxes are big and bulky, you can open them and put the stuff into bags. Bags might be easier to carry than big boxes.

A person does a nice thing. Thank him and appreciate the kindness. I think you are overthinking this. If you really don’t want his help, refuse graciously, but that seems silly, as you have stated that it is somewhat awkward for you.

You are not his conscience. If he is somehow compromising his time by helping you, that is entirely for him to deal with. Respect him enough to let him make his own decisions about helping.

You’re fine. Maybe everybody else who gets this stuff is physically larger than you.

It’s bit selfish. Women generally want to be thought of as capable individuals, so some try to not pay too much attention to their plight with heavy, difficult objects unless they ask. And that’s a real difficult thing for me to do. People, like myself, can be seen as major suck-ups if they offer to help too much.

@canidmajor Puts it so simply! A person does a nice thing. Thank him and tell him you appreciate the kindness.

Welcome to Fluther.

If he’s doing what he does of his own accord (it could also be that he has been told to help you for some reason), then simply thank him and find an unostentatious way to reciprocate. Does he drink coffee? Then bring him a cup when you come next time. (And bring a cup of your own, and maybe both of you can take a break and a chat after the task is done, or it might seem awkward if you just hand him a cup of coffee as a payoff, and then dash away.)

In any case, thank him whether you accept his help or not. You could even ask him, if you’re prepared to hear the answer, “Why do you help me, and no one else?”